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Guys who won't commit

I'm a freshman in college and I've had some really shitty experiences with guys. This has happened twice to me. I start talking to a guy and it seems to be going really well. We both mutually express that we are looking for a relationship, but don't want to rush it. Weeks go by of us dating. It's great, they treat me right and make me laugh. I see a future with him. We eventually become exclusive, then out of the blue they say I don't want a relationship. One of the guys told me he never wanted one. Even though he pursued me. I'm just really confused and frustrated as to first of all why they waste my time and secondly why they can't just commit to me. The second guy told me he really liked me but just didn't want to be exclusive. And then proceeded to tell me there was no one else he was interested it. (Clearly a lie). It just makes me feel like I'm not good enough. Any advice?
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You should not take these things personally. If you see every rejection as a fault in you there is only so long you keep going until you you feel completely worthless and need time to recuperate your self-esteem. Sometimes people just don't click and it's nobody's fault.
The best thing for you to do right now would be to take some time off. Take a break to relax from thinking about these guys and everything else for a bit (maybe get a massage, or just do something you like). This break is the time to take care of yourself. We are at our most attractive when we are happy with ourselves, after all.