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You may find these links useful:
http://www.thesite.org/info/health/other_mental_health/self_harm.html
http://www.thesite.org/magazine/specials_mental_health/depression/case_study_bpd_self_harm.html
You could also search the boards - there is plenty of advice about if you look hard enough
this is a serious problem and you need to overcome it. what made you start to do it in the first place? does it help you to relieve stress or what? are you happy with your life at the mo? seems like an odd question as you cant be happy if you harm yourself, but there has to be something that has happened to you to cause you to start doing this, and you are unsure if you are depressed. everytime you feel the urge to do it again be strong and DONT. you will not achieve anything by it, and are just making it worse everytime you do it. be strong.
In reply to angelbabe, in my opinion you can hurt yourself and not be depressed, it depends entirely on the reasons and circumstances behind it.
Watch_her_fall, if you were to search all the threads within health that are by me, Charley (which is my old username), you'd probably find plenty if advice from others, as well as other useful stuff.
Just take care of your cuts etc, make sure you keep them clean, and dressed of needs be.
Take care of yourself as well xxx
It really annoys me when people claim anyone who self harms or suffers from depression are just 'attention seeking'. Im not having a go at you directly angelbabe, im sure it was an innocent comment but i think there's a big misconception here. Attention seeking implies that people are doing it just to draw attention to themselves but the truth is most self-harmers desperatly try to hide what they're doing and feel ashamed of it, but its the only coping mechanism they know. By accusing them of attention seeking you are putting lives at risk because one day they might move on to suicide because they're scared of being judged if they ask for help.
The Bristol Crisis Centre for Women
They run local support groups for women who injure themselves, and also have a national self-harm helpline for women in distress.
Telephone: 0117 925 1119, open Friday and Saturday evenings from 9pm to 12.30am
www.users.zetnet.co.uk/BCSW
The Self-harm Resource Page
www.selfinjury.freeserve.co.uk
Talk to someone as soon as you can, there are some excellent people out there who can help you.
ok first things first - *HUG* to watch_her_fall. ok, so it's not gonna turn your life around but sometime hugs are good therapy.
hmmm... self harm. i could go on for a while but i'll try and keep it short for now!
totally agree with mancmanomyst about the whole attention seeking thing. most people who cut try as hard as they can to hide it, and if you do tell someone then it's to try and get help not attention! but it's amazing how many people get this wrong; as some of u might know i'm at med school and some of the attitudes here towards self harm are truly appalling
as far as i see it, self harm is a way of coping, a way of NOT killing yourself if you see what i mean. and in some ways it's a bit like an addiction; some people chain smoke, some people cut. that doesn't necessarily make it ok, but i'm just making the point that it's not attention seeking or a suicide bid or any of the other really really stupid things people have said to me over the past few years.
obviously it's something you want to get sorted in time, but the only way you're going to do that effectively is by dealing with the underlying problems - if you just try and go cold turkey you'll probably find your feelings just find another outlet
those websites are good and there are tons out there. i've also found that there are some vbery funky game sites which can distract you from cutting int he short term. also, come to this site
sorry for the length. i know i said i wouldn't go on. soz! it's just something quite important to me!
xxx bella xxx
no you are most certainly not pathetic! this is a problem youve got and you are certainly not pathetic if youve at least got the sense to come on here and ask for help/advice. thinking your pathetic is not gonna help you YOU ARE NOT PATHETIC. like you say, you feel lonely and unhappy inside. this is the root of the problem. please dont think your pathetic:(
xxx bella xxx
I hate people with the whole - people who cut themselves are attention seeking because it is not true. I know i wanted to get help but i was scared that people would call me an attenion seeker. And i was right they did. But at least i got help.
Most of the time people have a reason deep inside that they don't want to share with somebody. This reason eats away inside them and they find the only way to cope is by cutting (this is not in all cases) YOU ARE NOT PATHETIC and i know what you are going through.
I got help and my councellor told me to find my trigger point. The find something that made me happy. Whenever i found the urge to cut to focus on the thing that made me happy. And to try and avoid my trigger point.
Another thing is tell a friend. Tell just one close friend. then if you feel the urge call that friend and talk to them or get them to come over. It is another good way.
Hope that helped (even though it didn't make sense) Good luck.