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Making this summer more bearable
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I am home from university for the summer and I'm already going mad. My parents are splitting up and they're moving to their new respective homes on the 31st of July. I have my work (which I hate) but that is about it at the moment.
I've been growing apart from my friends herefor a long time, and we have nothing in common any more. I don't like them much now - lots of them are users now and as I've grown up and changed, they haven't. We live in a VERY rural area, and as I can't drive, I have barely any opportunities to do anything that doesn't involve my house, or the forest.
My mother has never been an easy person to get along with and now with all the stress of the house moving, she is insufferable. I find it difficult to spend any time at all with her without getting into an argument, so I spend most of my free time in my room.
All I have to do is read, play the piano, faff around on the internet and work. I HATE it all. Every time I see a postcard from my friends that aren't from here, or a picture on Facebook of them doing fun things I end up crying.
What can I do to make this summer more bearable? I find it difficult to get through a day, let alone the next two months.
I've been growing apart from my friends herefor a long time, and we have nothing in common any more. I don't like them much now - lots of them are users now and as I've grown up and changed, they haven't. We live in a VERY rural area, and as I can't drive, I have barely any opportunities to do anything that doesn't involve my house, or the forest.
My mother has never been an easy person to get along with and now with all the stress of the house moving, she is insufferable. I find it difficult to spend any time at all with her without getting into an argument, so I spend most of my free time in my room.
All I have to do is read, play the piano, faff around on the internet and work. I HATE it all. Every time I see a postcard from my friends that aren't from here, or a picture on Facebook of them doing fun things I end up crying.
What can I do to make this summer more bearable? I find it difficult to get through a day, let alone the next two months.
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Sorry to hear things are tough. I'm in a similar position in that I've been home from uni for over a week now and haven't met up with a single friend (lots of them aren't based at home anymore).
Could you look at getting a different job? Perhaps plan on visiting uni friends when you have some time off?
I've found getting into a routine has helped me since I've gone from having loads to do at uni to having nothing. For example my day is filled with dog walks, going to the gym, sometimes cooking. I'm also studying towards a qualification that I hadn't had the time to do whilst I was so busy at uni - I remember you're into languages, fancy learning another one? Maybe learning to drive?
Keep an eye out for local events too, I guess it could be a way of meeting new people
I've been applying for any jobs that catch my eye, but really, I don't think it's likely that I'd ever get an enjoyable summer job. I guess it's something that I just have to put up with.
I don't have the chance to go away; I need to use my time off for house moving because my parents want me to help them, especially my mum. I've got things planned for when I have a day or two off though, I'm going to stay with my sister for a night and I'll go up to London at another point and so on. When I move, though, when I visit my mum I'll be in a city centre so, depending on work schedule, I'll see if I can volunteer at the arts' centre for an hour or two a week.
I've been learning Icelandic though! Idk I might try and take it a bit more seriously and set myself like an hour to do a day or something. I wanted to keep it fun and only do it when I wanted to but a bit of structure would do me good. I might set myself things to learn on the piano and stuff too.
Local events aren't really a thing here; there's an occasional Abba tribute band in a pub or something but that's about it. And I don't think there's any way to meet new people, it's impossible to walk down the street without meeting somebody I know and who thinks I'm an uppity posh cow for having been the one that lost her accent and left here. Maybe after moving there'll be more people to meet though!