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Quarter life crisis
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I dont know where to put this as it covers a range of issues.
Has anyone else had anything like this before? Im plagued by doubt, guilt, feeling insecure, unworthy. Im at a point where I have no idea where Im going, what Im doing and terrified that whatever decisions I make now are going to impact the rest of my life, and if they're the wrong decisions, then probably negatively.
My job for example. Customer services and admin for insurance. This isnt a career I want but I feel like at 24 I should be in a career orientated job by now. If i stay, I'll be in a career thats not for me. If i leave, I'll be a newbie again, working my way up to something bigger, and who even knows what career I want to do or if I could do it. Until then I feel like my life is on hold.
My living situation as well. Everyone is telling me to stay at home and save money, its the most sensible option, but is it really sensible not to spend your money on something you really want? All this while Im saving money Im wasting time I could be spending living my life.
Then... do I rent or buy? Do i stay or go? If I go i'll need a job that can support me which might limit my options career wise.
I know Im sounding like a whiny bitch but my family are fed up of hearing it. I just want someone to come along and tell me what to do and what will work out for the best as I said Im terrified of making a wrong decision, like choosing to move out, which will end badly.
Everyone says at 24 you've got the rest of your life to fix any mistakes you might make but it really doesnt feel that way. It feels like if i dont have a career driven job and on the way to getting a mortgage now I might as well start stacking shelves for a living and get used to living with my parents the rest of my life.
Has anyone else had anything like this before? Im plagued by doubt, guilt, feeling insecure, unworthy. Im at a point where I have no idea where Im going, what Im doing and terrified that whatever decisions I make now are going to impact the rest of my life, and if they're the wrong decisions, then probably negatively.
My job for example. Customer services and admin for insurance. This isnt a career I want but I feel like at 24 I should be in a career orientated job by now. If i stay, I'll be in a career thats not for me. If i leave, I'll be a newbie again, working my way up to something bigger, and who even knows what career I want to do or if I could do it. Until then I feel like my life is on hold.
My living situation as well. Everyone is telling me to stay at home and save money, its the most sensible option, but is it really sensible not to spend your money on something you really want? All this while Im saving money Im wasting time I could be spending living my life.
Then... do I rent or buy? Do i stay or go? If I go i'll need a job that can support me which might limit my options career wise.
I know Im sounding like a whiny bitch but my family are fed up of hearing it. I just want someone to come along and tell me what to do and what will work out for the best as I said Im terrified of making a wrong decision, like choosing to move out, which will end badly.
Everyone says at 24 you've got the rest of your life to fix any mistakes you might make but it really doesnt feel that way. It feels like if i dont have a career driven job and on the way to getting a mortgage now I might as well start stacking shelves for a living and get used to living with my parents the rest of my life.
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I don't really have any pearls of wisdom to share, asides to do what your heart tells you, because there's some things you can only do whilst you are young and it's best to regret things you have done and not things you haven't.
Analyzing what you could have accomplished as opposed to what you have "I wanted to be xxx when I grew up, I'm grown up now... fuck!"
There still is plenty of time to change, even if it doesn't feel like it. I think people who have their life sorted out, working in their desired career path, starting a family and whatever else one is supposed to do by 25 is the exception, not the rule.
It is a shitty age.
Even though I still don't have all the answers, I think the thing that sparked change for me was taking some risks and forcing myself to recognize I was the only one who could change things.
Anyhow, a few things that might be worth reading:
An article that sets out what you're going through - Quarter life crisis
Taking it to the extreme: I hate my life
Have you looked on the website spareroom.co.uk? I'm not saying going to rent somewhere is the answer here, but possibly going to a few viewings and engaging with local young people who are living that life will give you a bit more insight and help you to make a decision. There's nothing like seeing how others actually live to give you a wake-up call - whether it be: yes, that's where I want to be, or no, I couldn't bear to live like that and appreciate being at home to save. :chin:
And then what if I choose the wrong option. And if people won't say it they'll be thinking I was an idiot. I think that's what scares me the most
Make the opportunities rather than wait for them. Be proactive. Go after what you want and get it - the only thing guaranteed to make you fail is if you don't try at all.