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Feeling pushed out
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So my sister has a boyfriend who is around ALL THE TIME. Literally every weekend he is at our house and follows her round like a lost puppy. The trouble is that me and my sister are into the same rockabilly scene and used to go to gigs and stuff together all the time. The trouble is now he's around he tags along too, and people now see us not as me and her as sisters, but them two as a couple and me who just tags along with them.
Its getting to the point now where i dont want to go to anymore gigs or dances because im just pushed out and left on my own. There is a new years eve gig on tonight but i really dont fancy going and being the third wheel again. I cant take any of my close friends as I know they wouldn enjoy it and i do know people who go but not enough to hang around with them, i'd feel too awkward. Plus people just seem to ignore me and talk to them
Its getting to the point now where i dont want to go to anymore gigs or dances because im just pushed out and left on my own. There is a new years eve gig on tonight but i really dont fancy going and being the third wheel again. I cant take any of my close friends as I know they wouldn enjoy it and i do know people who go but not enough to hang around with them, i'd feel too awkward. Plus people just seem to ignore me and talk to them
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All I'd say is they'll calm down. You should go tonight anyway, rockabilly dances are very sociable.
If not I'd go!
How was the New Year's party in the end?
It's a hard situation when you feel you've lost the precious times you had with your sister, simply because she's dating someone. It's good that you have had a chat all together, but seems like they don't understand how hard this has been for you.
Could you possibly speak to your sister alone? Maybe you can both agree on going to one gig every 2 weeks or every month just you two? Perhaps he would understand if he only misses out every so often?
Are you dating anyone at the moment? If yes could you do a double date kind of thing? And if no, does your sister's boyfriend have anyone that also likes gigs that he could bring when you all go out? It would perhaps feel less lonely if you had someone else with you.
Hope it went well, good luck
When we spoke before we said something about doing something just the two of us every now and then but it hasnt really happened. Im not seeing anyone either, none of my friend would be into it, and he doesnt really have any friends other than the people we all know so thats not really an option