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Personality Disorders
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How do you know when its time to go and see a doctor?
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You alright mate? Are you having a rough time recently?
The important thing to remember is that a huge proportion of people will have some difficulties with mental health at one point or another, and you're definitely not in some sort of mental minority. The earlier you can get some sort of handle on what the problem is, the sooner you can start managing the issues and moving forward. Another place to look for something more specific would be on the mind website, which is here, and lastly, but by no means least, TheSite.org's section on personality disorders.
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Some great advice here from Namaste and Fiend... I just wanted to chip in and say the worries you have about talking to a professional are by no means unusual. Here at TheSite we've spent lots of time thinking about the hurdles people experience when building up to taking action.
As well as the content Fiend has linked you to, we also have a section called Step Finder, which is all about these issues. You might find our article on talking to your GP a good place to start. Although it specifies GP, I think lots of this is relevant to talking to all sorts of professionals.
Keep posting. :thumb:
Needless to say, all the diagnosis type stuff is confusing and often contested.
Georgiana, do you have a diagnosis of a personality disorder, or do you think you have one? You don't have to respond to that on here... But maybe, if you think you have a personality disorder, you could find an online community to share experiences and see how other people are managing and recovering from things... If you have a close friend or relative, I imagine that there may be some support groups around too?
Sometimes, it helps to hear other people talk with the same experiences, to make your own pain feel justified and real and to get an idea as to what to tell a doctor and what support may be on offer.
Edit: Oh, I only read the front page on personality disorders... I'm sure some of the articles will help somebody.
Edit again: Oh and I use these guys if I'm feeling very low (I think I have bipolar and my psych doc thinks I may have bipolar, or possibly borderline traits... I get months of very severe depressions and weeks of being hyper and thinking I'm indestructible and periods of being more stable)... They're way better than Samaritans in my experience: Sane - 0845 767 8000
thank you everyone for all the links. they have been helpful, but i'm still confused about how i feel. i really feel something is wrong, i just don't know what, and no online site offers advice, only talking about feelings. i've always self harmed, and i know that means there has to be something wrong. but i'm still too scared to see a doctor or anyone, and i'm not close enough to my family to be comfortable talking about something like this. my boyfriend knows but he lives away, so i'm on my own trying to cope with this. i just feel like i need someone to say i should go to a doctor to talk, but no one will offer any advice like that. how am i supposed to know if something is wrong with me or not, if no one will offer advice? most online sites have been unhelpful and frustrating. i took a course before to be a mentor, so i know the counselling techniques they try to use on me, where they just re-phrase what i say and then offer articles which doesn't help at all. thank you all for replying, its nice to have someone to talk to.
my bipolar is fully under control now, but really struggling with my BPD at the moment. is anyone else out there suffering with this? ive had CAT therapy which has really helped, but so much so that i would no longer meet a diagnosis threshold. so i couldnt get treatment on the NHS. i feel like i am well and truly stuck now. any advice?
Hey georgiana,
It's understandable that you are feeling frustrated by the limitations that online support provides - there does tend to be a lot of talk about feelings and TheSite is often referred to as a bridge between talking openly anonymously and going on to access further support, hence why I linked to the step finder. Do take a look back as I think the suggestion is quite clear...
If you've hit a dead end with the support you've had so far, then go to a doctor to talk. *hug*
Let us know what your fears are and we'll do our best to help you move forward.