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im not sure what to say

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
hey i am new to the forums and im not quite sure how it works, what im ment to say but i have been told it helps to talk.

i have been self harming for the past 5 years it used to be just when i felt sad or down but it became an every day thing and has been gettiiing worse since my nan died in february.
i told my best friend about it a couple of months ago and she is strugling to coupe with it and its ruining are friendship,i do want to stop but im not sure how i have tried before and went a month with out doing it but the only way i could stop the thoughts was to keep drinking which i stopped and the self harm started again.
iwant to stop feeling like this :(

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Have you thought about speaking to your GP about it? It's usually a good place to start.
  • ReenaReena Fanatical Poster Posts: 1,375 The Mix Regular
    hey i am new to the forums and im not quite sure how it works, what im ment to say but i have been told it helps to talk.

    i have been self harming for the past 5 years it used to be just when i felt sad or down but it became an every day thing and has been gettiiing worse since my nan died in february.
    i told my best friend about it a couple of months ago and she is strugling to coupe with it and its ruining are friendship,i do want to stop but im not sure how i have tried before and went a month with out doing it but the only way i could stop the thoughts was to keep drinking which i stopped and the self harm started again.
    iwant to stop feeling like this :(

    Like Fiend_85 said. Going to your GP is a good start. My GP was fab, she recommended all kinds of things. One was to put me on a waiting list for a counselor, but I started seeing the college counselor a few weeks later and there was no need. Another was anti-depressants, which I tried but the counselling helped the most.
    The counselor was able to offer advice, support and practical methods to deal with my depression. I ended up going back to the same counselor some years later when I started another course. I was a former self harmer and didn't want to end up like that again after being clean like you for such a long time.
    Its good you confided in someone, but some people just don't know what to say. They worry about saying the wrong thing. Tell your friend how much you appreciated her listening to you, and that you don't want to make her uncomfortable. If you think its too hard for her to manage come here and talk. There will always be support for you here. Everyone is so lovely, so happy to listen and share thoughts.
    Best wishes Reena xx. *hug*
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    if you are at school/college/uni then you can access a counsellor through student support, if you'd like someone to talk to about how you feel. as the others have said, your gp is your ideal first port of call if you'd like medical support, but that might be something you want to work up to.

    if you think the loss of your nan was the main trigger for the recent bout of self-harm then you might want to consider a specialist grief counselling service like cruse who have branches across the uk.

    do you have anyone at home to support you?
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    thank you

    I have been on anti depressents before and they didnt reali help and I have an appointment to go to the doctors but they couldn't fit me in for a couple of weeks so I was just wondering if anyone had any suggestions on ways to help stopping it until then.
    And Thank you for your messages
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hi mowglianne:wave:,

    Welcome to the site:heart:.

    It can take a while to get used to all of the Forum's and the different sections but i'm sure you will find your way around it soon enough, however if you do have any questions do not hesitate to ask.:)

    I am sorry to hear of the loss of your nan in February, this will be a very upsetting time for you and as omg hi has suggested it may be worth you seeking out some advice or counselling from Cruse - bereavement counselling service, Here is a link to the website that will give you all of the local numbers(just click on the word "local number's and it should take you directly to the page.

    There is also some really useful advice and tips about Self Harm on The Site, I will add a link for you to have a look through in your own time ( again if you click on " Self Harm " this will direct you to the page.)

    I hope this has been helpful and Please continue to post on The Site and let us know how you are getting on, I hope you find your way around ok, and please as I said above don't hesitate to ask if you have any questions.

    Take Care,
    B:thumb:
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