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My girlfriend just admitted she masterbates!
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I couldnt belive it it, there i was on the phone, when she asked me how often i masterbate, so i tell her, then i ask her and she is all um errrr, so i think oh my god she does, with further bugging she finally admits it! i couldnt believe it, but it worries me that she has masterbated 3 times this week already! am i not satisfying her, cause she is quite nervous about me fingering her, so i never assumed she did it! im not sure if this a good or bad thing, i dont know what to think?
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"am i not satisfying her, cause she is quite nervous about me fingering her, so i never assumed she did it!"
This sounds like you have never done anything to satisfy her...have you fingered her or haven't you?
My life isn't entirely without sex, but I still masturbate like a rabid monkey....ehem...
[This message has been edited by bundo (edited 24-05-2001).]
she's just doing what comes naturally. you should try it together sometime when ur on the phone. it's pretty cool, actually. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">
Sorry if I am making too much assumptions but I'm just giving you extra advice.
I like you-thats why. You have your head screwed on rightly and your heart is in the right place.
Cheating-DON'T. Have you come up with a decision about that yet?
women, however, are not supposed to want sex. we're supposed to lie on our backs and stare at the ceiling and let the guy do all the work. if it seems like we enjoy the sex or even (gasp!) WANT it, then we're whores, sluts, floozys, etc. masturbation is seen as shameful to women, something we NEVER talk about.
now i know that lots of guys feel ashamed to masturbate, and lots of girls are very sexual and aren't called sluts. i'm making blanket societal statements here.
but the point is... chris wouldn't be having these doubts if he weren't somehow indoctrinated with the idea that it's ok for men to masturbate and it's not ok for women to masturbate.
damnit, i've been masturbating since i was 11 and i'm PROUD of it! i popped my own cherry and can make myself come more often and far better than i've ever come during any kind of stimulation from a man.
not to say that men aren't wonderful and that i don't appreciate what my bf does for me, i do.... i'm just saying... masturbation is OK! it's great! and it's VERY different from sex. masturbation is about exploring yourself, fine tuning what you like and dislike, and generally just getting a good orgasm. sometimes i masturbate because i can't get to sleep and the orgasm calms me down. sex is great because it's intimate, it's far less predictable, it's far more exciting....
Bundo is right, there is sex in my life but to be perfectly honest I don't think there is such a thing as a partner who can COMPLETELY satisfy you.
"Honesty is just an excuse for lack of imagination."
My girlfriend masterbates and it doesn't really bother me, infact I quite like it! But one thing that deep down really fucks me off is I used her phone to use the Internet a while back and the history was full of porn she had been watching! we can go for days maybe weeks without sex and when I've said "why not just wait for me to get home and we can enjoy it together?" she says well you can't always be here when I feel the urge.
Another thing is "mornings" I love the idea of morning sex but we ain't done it for fucking ages yet all this porn she has been watching is in the morning first thing when I've gone to work!!
Am I just been paranoid or what???
Just the once?
Did it last for 20 years?