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Me and this guy started experimentation to see if we were bi, but he has a GF...After a while I kinda fell in love with him..and me and him here making out and cuddling when I told him that, he started to cry and tell me about how he loves me to but has a gf and he is not mean enough to dump her....When I am with him everything feels so right and amazing like its meant to be...but apart I feel like its gross and what we are doing is wrong...but it changes so much when we are together....what should I do to make the "eww" thoughts go away
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Do you enjoy spending time with him (do you love him or is it more like brotherly love you feel?), or is it more "ewww". You shouldn't do anything you are uncomfortable with.
You should watch some gay cinema on the matter, that helped me through my feelings of it being "wrong", it could help you. Even reading stories and history on people who have fought for gay rights. It depends entirely on the reason why you think it's wrong what you're doing. If you explain more why you feel that way, we could help you on that subject.
I accepted I was gay about 3-4 years after having those first feelings. I constantly kept thinking it was wrong, but cinema, books, stories, experiences etc all helped me realize that it wasn't.
It's always hard to get the courage to try different things, and you should be proud that you are being honest with your current feelings. Bi-curiosity is completely natural and sometimes it can surprise you;
Perhaps the guilt of not fitting in the "norm" is making you doubt your feelings when he is away, and perhaps this could be due to what has been shown to you as the "norm" when growing up. Feelings are what counts at the end of the day, no matter the gender, and what you feel about him when you are together is clearly important to you.
Off course his girlfriend is an issue at the moment. Perhaps having a serious conversation about how you both feel could help you see where you truly stand with him.
Good luck