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I've put this in 'Relationships' because I think it's relevant to that section.
The topic in question is hugging, and it was the 'hugs' thread that got me thinking. I have an issue with hugging in that I only like hugs from people that I'm physically attracted to. I'm uncomfortable with any and all other hugs. I was wondering if anyone else feels the same? If yes, share. If not then can you offer me some thoughts as to why I might be like this?
Hugs from family, in particular, REALLY make me uncomfortable. I don't have to be actively interested in someone to enjoy a hug from them but I have to at least be able to find them attractive or the hug just creeps me out. It makes me feel unnatural, uncomfortable, on edge, etc.
The topic in question is hugging, and it was the 'hugs' thread that got me thinking. I have an issue with hugging in that I only like hugs from people that I'm physically attracted to. I'm uncomfortable with any and all other hugs. I was wondering if anyone else feels the same? If yes, share. If not then can you offer me some thoughts as to why I might be like this?
Hugs from family, in particular, REALLY make me uncomfortable. I don't have to be actively interested in someone to enjoy a hug from them but I have to at least be able to find them attractive or the hug just creeps me out. It makes me feel unnatural, uncomfortable, on edge, etc.
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Not embarrassed as such, they just make me feel uncomfortable. I guess there might be an element of self consciousness in there, yes, but mostly it's just that the hug makes my skin crawl and I don't know why.
It's annoying though at times, because more often that not now I just want a proper hug!
I once went to a meeting in Latin America where we all had to do a group hug at the end and i found i really odd and couldn't get into it at all and pretty much tried to avoid hugging anyone - which was noticed so i kind of said i was english and it wasn't really something i felt comfortable with, however my line manager did bring up that I wasn't getting into the spirit of things enough and that i should have more actively joined in the hugging.
I'm British and have friends from different countries. I've noticed that Brits seem to shake hands (although, some will hug and /or kiss me - but we've known each other for several years) and I've noticed that some of the foreign people tend to hug or kiss. Which, after meeting someone once, I find somewhat odd.
I guess everyone is wired up differently.
As a quick aside, it was interesting to see a little debate about handshakes on BBC Breakfast this morning. Of course I have no issue with handshakes as a formal greeting. I just hate ones that are too firm or too limp :S The hand crusher handshake is too testosterone fuelled for my liking. The limp squid handshake just feels plain weird o___O
Yeah, but you're a tart.
I like hugs, but on my own terms. If I'm not feeling up for a Super Long Hug, and someone tries to give me one, I get really uncomfortable, but sometimes that's just what I need.
Some people are uncomfortable being close to others, which is fine, as long as you're reasonable about it.
I do too. Apart from the time a friend was minging of sweat from jumping about. (we'd been at a gig) :yuck:
I actually really like hugging excessively sweaty people
Ewww