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Getting girls to go out with you when they claim they're not interested.
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How do some guys do this? I've just been texting a female friend, and she says she's now dating this guy who last week, she was telling me she doesn't like in that way and was asking for advice on how to avoid stringing him along but still be friends. Of course, that doesn't mean anything will come of it, but another friend is now married after initially rejecting her husband as anything other than a friend. Have I been going wrong all these years in not pursuing it when a girl is saying she's not interested in that way?
So in order to turn this into a thread, did you initially like your other half in that way or did he/she have to work on you a bit first?
Personally, I found my girlfriend attractive from the moment I met her, but then it was in a nightclub, so it's hardly going to be personality, is it?
Sorry it's a bit of a sexist title btw. Just writing from my perspective. So girls, feel free to comment on the same thing in reverse.
So in order to turn this into a thread, did you initially like your other half in that way or did he/she have to work on you a bit first?
Personally, I found my girlfriend attractive from the moment I met her, but then it was in a nightclub, so it's hardly going to be personality, is it?
Sorry it's a bit of a sexist title btw. Just writing from my perspective. So girls, feel free to comment on the same thing in reverse.
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Maybe, in her case, feelings developed more after getting to know each other better?
Current girlfriend I had just never considered dating until she asked me and then we took it really slow until I was sure I wasn't just stringing her along.
In all seriousness there isn't a 'method' of getting a girl to go out with you, it isn't a science. Sometimes when you first meet someone youre not interested that way but things can change. That's all it is. Either that or they're dating you for the sake of it.
If you like someone then take the time to get to know them and spend some time with them as a friend. Then you are giving it a chance to develop. Not all couples start of with an instant romantic connection.
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It also seems to depend on the person - you might decide to keep pursuing this girl and not giving up - and it might work out - yet it also could mean 7 years later she is still none the wiser. There is something romantic in waiting and eventually falling for a friend and realising there's a connection, but it can also go very wrong. You could stay mates, get on with your life not hoping for more, and who knows!
Wish u luck
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