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Hi guys, kinda need some advice.
Today (Tuesday) my BEST mate of all time stupidly, VERY stupidly overdosed today at break in school. We had science after and we didnt sit next to eachother, she walked in crying. me being unaware of what she had done got...a little worried you could say and then from no where she chucks this paper at me i read it and it says..'i need help, serious help. Ive done something. Ive overdosed.' i sat there in shock and then she got up with another close friend of hers and they went outside.
after our teacher had finished talking i told him 'sir i need to go outside with jas, its really ergent and if not i will just walk out. i cant tell you but i just need to go' i went and her friend went back in and i took her to this teacher we talked to alot cos we have a lot of stuff going on. things are a bit hazy from then on i was scared and kinda just froze, we took her to first aid and things went from there, first aider rang doctors etc.
after the checks had been done and she was okay physically, obv not mentally (not being harsh just dont know how to word it) we walked down to the courts and talked about alot of stuff. We talked about me and her and why she did wht she did etc. then went to class and it was hard for both of us to concentrate as we are really close and everything just seemed normal.
we met at lunch and spoke to the teacher we normally speak to and talked about it. everything in history, last lesson, it was all okay, i think she was laughing and seemed distracted a little but then again she is a good actress. Her mum cant be contacted atm, her dad knows because she told him.. her mum is part of the problem..
i really dont know what to do to help. i mean shes talking to me and everything. but i feel like its partly my fault. at break she wouldnt open up to me and i guess i got upset and slightly annoyed and walked off, then she did wht she did and i just cant believe that it was nothing to do with me. can anyone help? cos i just feel so useless.
anyone?
Today (Tuesday) my BEST mate of all time stupidly, VERY stupidly overdosed today at break in school. We had science after and we didnt sit next to eachother, she walked in crying. me being unaware of what she had done got...a little worried you could say and then from no where she chucks this paper at me i read it and it says..'i need help, serious help. Ive done something. Ive overdosed.' i sat there in shock and then she got up with another close friend of hers and they went outside.
after our teacher had finished talking i told him 'sir i need to go outside with jas, its really ergent and if not i will just walk out. i cant tell you but i just need to go' i went and her friend went back in and i took her to this teacher we talked to alot cos we have a lot of stuff going on. things are a bit hazy from then on i was scared and kinda just froze, we took her to first aid and things went from there, first aider rang doctors etc.
after the checks had been done and she was okay physically, obv not mentally (not being harsh just dont know how to word it) we walked down to the courts and talked about alot of stuff. We talked about me and her and why she did wht she did etc. then went to class and it was hard for both of us to concentrate as we are really close and everything just seemed normal.
we met at lunch and spoke to the teacher we normally speak to and talked about it. everything in history, last lesson, it was all okay, i think she was laughing and seemed distracted a little but then again she is a good actress. Her mum cant be contacted atm, her dad knows because she told him.. her mum is part of the problem..
i really dont know what to do to help. i mean shes talking to me and everything. but i feel like its partly my fault. at break she wouldnt open up to me and i guess i got upset and slightly annoyed and walked off, then she did wht she did and i just cant believe that it was nothing to do with me. can anyone help? cos i just feel so useless.
anyone? 0
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All you can really do is be supportive if she is having problems at home. Sometimes it can be frustrating when people won't open up and talk to you when there is so obviously something wrong - and especially if you are scared that that is how she will react again but all you can do is be patient, encouraging and supportive and say you will be there when they are ready to talk to you about what is troubling you. It may help you to read up on the articles on here about mental health to increase your knowledge on this and help you feel more prepared.
Just be careful that this doesn't get used as a way of manipulating you if you don't give her the attention that she wants.
i know it's really hard but you must not blame yourself for this.
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but what if what i did just pushed her that little to far? i just feel so guilty. i just dont know how to help her.
the thing is that, even if that was the case and it was a reaction to you, she CHOSE to do it. you didn't make her or tell her to do it, she did it herself. no one caused what happened except her. and now it's done and over, and she's safe, and you feeling guilty about it will help no one.
the best thing you can do is keep doing what you are doing, honestly. but don't let what has happened make you feel bad about yourself, it was not your fault and when you have got over the shock you will see that.