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BillieTheBot
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if someone has asked for money, how much do you normally give?
i am invited to the day do and i know as a general rule, you are supposed to give as much as its cost them to invite you but i have no idea what the cost per head is for the meal!
i'm going to a friend's wedding in march. we used to be close mates but we aren't anymore...not really. we don't see each other much, talk much anymore!
would £50 be acceptable or am i being a bit cheap? her wedding is a week after i get back from my holiday so i'm going to be skint to be completely honest.
i'm worrying because she is one of those sort of people who if you give her too little, she'll moan!
me and my bloke gave £250 last year when his sister got married but that was his sister!
just wondering what people normally give...
i am invited to the day do and i know as a general rule, you are supposed to give as much as its cost them to invite you but i have no idea what the cost per head is for the meal!
i'm going to a friend's wedding in march. we used to be close mates but we aren't anymore...not really. we don't see each other much, talk much anymore!
would £50 be acceptable or am i being a bit cheap? her wedding is a week after i get back from my holiday so i'm going to be skint to be completely honest.
i'm worrying because she is one of those sort of people who if you give her too little, she'll moan!
me and my bloke gave £250 last year when his sister got married but that was his sister!
just wondering what people normally give...
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Hand on heart, someone spending all that money to come to my wedding was enough for me.
think i'm going to stick with £50. i can't really afford anymore because attending the day itself is going to cost a bit as we've got to travel quite a way and pay for a hotel for two nights. add on top drinking costs and outfit costs as well, lol!
attending weddings are expensive, lol!
The one that I'd see as taking the piss is giving less than you'd spend on drinks etc on a standard night out.
I'd say 50 is generous for someone you "used to be close" with. Especially if you're only in for part of the do.
Like you said, with family you might want to give more or when you're older and you're more of an "elder" at the wedding for a niece/nephew, you might want to give more.
And seriously, if your friends moans about how much she didn't get from you, tell her to pi55 off. She should have just sent you a bill, not an invite.
I'd definitely agree with that.
I just can't believe the cheek of people whingeing if they don't get enough money as a present- I think asking for money is distasteful enough as it is. I know when I married I was just glad people could make it, as it was a long way for a lot of people; we had a wedding list, but only to prevent people from buying us 20 bazillion towels and not a lot else (Debenhams screwed up the list though so we got 20 bazillion dinner plates and two bowls). A friend of ours specifically told us that our attendance at their wedding was enough of a present, given the £200 cost of the hotel and actually getting to the venue.