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horrible first time sex felling, anything wrong with me?
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I am 24 and just lost my virginity last night. Almost all my friend lost their virginity during teenage, so I told my bf that I have had sex with few person before but when I saw his penis size, I almost fainted, he is about 9" and very very thick around. I thinks his size is abnormal as I expecting something about 5". I am afraid that he will find out i was a virgin if he hurt me a lot.
I just told him that I never have sex with this big size before and hope he can take it slow. When he penetrate me, he try to make it slow but look like my vagina is very small and he need to thrust hard. Once he get the head inside, the pain was horrible, I felt like my vagina stretch beyond the limit and split, I try to control not to scream even it is too painful for me to handle, hopping he did not not notice I am a virgin. He keep telling me that I am tighter than the virgin he had sex before. I understand that the pain is from my hymen and the painful part was over (I think).
It is not easy for him to push inside me (may be he is too big or I am too small), each heavy push only able to enter me a little bit, once he enter a little more, the stretching pain appear again and split me into half again. This continue for few thrust (may be 9~10 thrust) and then he come, it is not easy for me to handle every thrust. He said he just enter me about 3.5" and he come so quickly due to my tightness. He said will have sex again next week and I am afraid the remaining 5.5" will continue to hurt me like that.
I have a few question:
1) Is his size abnormal?
2) Is this size not suitable for a first timer?
3) Is the pain I felt normal to a girl when she lost her virginity? or it is too much for me to handle?
4) I felt my vagina split, it is really split?
5) Everybody talking about hymen breaking pain, why I felt the stretching pain was more than hymen tearing?
6) I also bleed a lot but just told him that due to never do it with this size before. Do you think that he notice I was a virgin?
I just told him that I never have sex with this big size before and hope he can take it slow. When he penetrate me, he try to make it slow but look like my vagina is very small and he need to thrust hard. Once he get the head inside, the pain was horrible, I felt like my vagina stretch beyond the limit and split, I try to control not to scream even it is too painful for me to handle, hopping he did not not notice I am a virgin. He keep telling me that I am tighter than the virgin he had sex before. I understand that the pain is from my hymen and the painful part was over (I think).
It is not easy for him to push inside me (may be he is too big or I am too small), each heavy push only able to enter me a little bit, once he enter a little more, the stretching pain appear again and split me into half again. This continue for few thrust (may be 9~10 thrust) and then he come, it is not easy for me to handle every thrust. He said he just enter me about 3.5" and he come so quickly due to my tightness. He said will have sex again next week and I am afraid the remaining 5.5" will continue to hurt me like that.
I have a few question:
1) Is his size abnormal?
2) Is this size not suitable for a first timer?
3) Is the pain I felt normal to a girl when she lost her virginity? or it is too much for me to handle?
4) I felt my vagina split, it is really split?
5) Everybody talking about hymen breaking pain, why I felt the stretching pain was more than hymen tearing?
6) I also bleed a lot but just told him that due to never do it with this size before. Do you think that he notice I was a virgin?
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9inch isnt an abnormal size although it is big. im not surprised it hurt you if you were a virgin.
Remember you dont have to have sex with him again if you dont want to or dont get any pleasure out of it
I'm normal hung and had to abort my first time, because my g/f was so in pain.
oh it occurs to me it was pretty much her problem. luckily he was one of the gentle lads to begin with.
2) All size can fit into a virgin, only it will be very painful for a virgin to take this size. Not all virgin feel pain when they lost their virginity but this size for sure willl hurt a lot.
3) Sorry to heard that you are in so much pain.
4) May have a lot of tear inside your vagina.
5) It is due to your vagina needs to stretch a lot more to let him fit inside.
6) He may suspect.
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