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feel sexually frustrated and almost addicited

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
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Im 23 and single and currently going to school and seeing a theapist. and while im getting good grades and im doing well in school my personal life has not gone very well recently. lateley when i get home from school i go immediatley home and close my door and jerk off to porn in my room or on my computer, part of it is im very sexually frustrated because im shy with alot of women and ive never had a girlfriend and only had sex once last year. i masturbate sometimes 5 times a day to porn or graphic images. and also when im done with homework i go on to craigslist and seek sex with women, and one time because i got so horny i jerked off in the stall in a public restroom. i realize this is not healthy and its affecting my luck with women and rather then jerk off to porn i should attempt meeting women but i have trouble with approaching them. and i feel sexually frustrated because ive never had a girlfriend i sleep alone every night(i cry myself to sleep sometimes) and i only had sex once last year and it was over with and done with before you know it. even though i grew up in a liberal household and a liberal enviorment, i never have felt sexually accepted, in high school i would dream of girls and masturbate like crazy knowing i could never sleep with a girl or even just talk to them, and now its gotten worse and i satrt feeling all these emotions such as frustration, jealousy,empathy and sadness and anger. what should i do to improve this i feel like im becoming a sex addict.

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Well, it might sound impossible to you, as it's still hard for me and I am not that desperate or frustrated, but: Just Do It. (nike!). It doesn't get magically easier talking to women, while not doing it. It just becomes easier when you practice and when you don't take it personally when you are rejected. Seriously, this is the worst and you need to learn to handle rejection and nastiness, but all I can see that helps is just suck it up and do it. I know it's scary, like bungee jumping, but bungee jumping only works if you are just fucking doing it and not standing on the platform contemplating to do it while looking over the edge. Take a little run and find out it is too late to stop so you have to jump. Go up to a girl, say "HI!" and realize it's too late to pussy out again without looking like a tool.

    There is no other way than Just Doing It.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    23 and at school?
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    MoK wrote: »
    23 and at school?

    USA, I would say and College.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    so i said school instead of college small mistake.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i went to a karaoke bar and danced but no one danced with me i got up there and danced with myself lol. then this girl and her friends were dancing later and one girl in the group eyed me briefly and made an ambigious motion to me to come up and dance with her, but i wasint 100 percent sure thats what she was doing. then she never looked at me again and hung near me with her friends. i felt annoyed but at myself because if she wasint motioning for me to dance with her i would have been worried she thought i was a creep, on the other hand im paying for being to shy, but i think its funny i got dirty looks from women and when i went on the dance floor everyone scattered, i guess i am that much of a creepy looking guy.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    23andsingle wrote: »
    i went to a karaoke bar and danced but no one danced with me i got up there and danced with myself lol. then this girl and her friends were dancing later and one girl in the group eyed me briefly and made an ambigious motion to me to come up and dance with her, but i wasint 100 percent sure thats what she was doing. then she never looked at me again and hung near me with her friends. i felt annoyed but at myself because if she wasint motioning for me to dance with her i would have been worried she thought i was a creep, on the other hand im paying for being to shy, but i think its funny i got dirty looks from women and when i went on the dance floor everyone scattered, i guess i am that much of a creepy looking guy.

    That's why you just go over and talk to her to find out if she thinks you are a creepy guy. If someone dances a bit quick and spacious I make room too, it's courtesy and self-protection of not getting danced into with elbows and knees like a whirling dervish.

    If all you do is assess the situation to your worst and keep remembering it as an exclusively negative experience, there is no wondering that you are so down about yourself. you have the courage to dance alone on the floor, now take some of that courage and start conversation with other people. Yea, you will most probably get shot down many times before you have meaningful conversation, but that's just that there are way more people incompatible than the ones who are compatible to us.

    If you don't act and Just Do It you should not wallow in self-pity. It never helped. Quite the contrary actually.
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