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Out in Floor Wanker's company last night...
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Ok, so I was at a party last night and Floor Wanker was there. I felt really weird, probably heightened by the fact I wasn't drinking and neither was he. So, anyway, it was mixed company but we pretty much avoided each other most of the night. Even if we were sat beside each other, we didn't really engage in any meaningful conversation.
I noticed that he was talking away to the other girls that were there and being quite tactile, although they have boyfriends so I wondered if that's because they're 'safe' if you know what I mean? But he wasn't like that with me and I wondered if that was because a) he just hates me now, b) he still feels uncomfortable or c) he still fancies me and doesn't really know what to do.
I suppose I felt weird about it because out of all the girls there, I'm the one he's been intimate with and yet I'm the one he won't really talk to!
GB x
I noticed that he was talking away to the other girls that were there and being quite tactile, although they have boyfriends so I wondered if that's because they're 'safe' if you know what I mean? But he wasn't like that with me and I wondered if that was because a) he just hates me now, b) he still feels uncomfortable or c) he still fancies me and doesn't really know what to do.
I suppose I felt weird about it because out of all the girls there, I'm the one he's been intimate with and yet I'm the one he won't really talk to!
GB x
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Sorry to be harsh, but the bloke only got in touch with you when he needed £2.5k, if anything you just need to show that you can be strong around him. If you talked to him with confidence it might well make him feel uncomfortable.
Anyways, get on with things and don't let this bloke drag you down.
There is obviously a small chance he may seem interested in you, however due to the fact that he is ignoring you, not interacting with you, I would take this to suggest that he has no further interest in you miss.
I do not mean to be offensive but it does seem he doesn't care to much about you, otherwise he would make an effort.
I can only suggest that you try to distant yourself from him. It doesn't seem to be leading anywhere, in my opinion anyway.
Yea, you had sex with him, but that doesn't change ANYthing in my book. When I have sex with a friend and it was a one time thing, it's like it never happened afterwards. When we go out in a group I don't have to give her special attention or whatever. Either accept that he won't talk you up, because he is either uncomfortable, doesn't fancy you and saw you as a one time thing, or is afraid you are blowing this all out of proportion. It doesn't really matter what it is. Either get over it, or try to get it on with him again, but don't expect the ball to be in his court.
I'm sorry but not everyone has sex with friends with no ties to it. From the sounds of it, this was quite a big thing for Gingerbelle and nothing to be shrugged off.
Okay he might've just forgotten about it, nor cared but it seems to have been quite memorable, or special for Gingerbelle. I don't agree she should shrug it off, as nothing. however I would suggest hat she does need to start moving on
Me neither. Happened once and that's the way I dealt with it and I would not know why I would expect anything coming from her when I am not doing anything myself. If I do something, like getting in touch and I don't get response (i.e. excuses are being made, or I am being brushed off), I realize it's time to move on and not try to find solutions to such an issue.
Well yea. Basically what I wanted to say: There is no point in analyzing this situation like this. Either do one thing or the other, but don't try to understand and analyze him and maybe hope he'd do something you might appreciate. It is not only useless, but damaging and a source for unhappiness.
This.
He's milking you. Move along gentlemen and mind the gap.
P.S. When I saw the thread title, I thought it was going to be a piss-take on Willie Wonka, with "company" meaning a business i.e. his choc factory.
GB x
From what I can see, your having trouble getting past this because you care for him. You liked him, let your guard down n you got hurt. It will just take some time.
But yeah, £2500 is a lot in the grand scheme of things. My take-home pay is £541, so that figure is almost like 5 months of my wages O.o
:yes: wise words. Don't be too hard on yourself GB.
Yes, but we're taling about the bloke who made it quite clear he wasn't interested in a relationship, to whom GB preteneded to be sexually experienced, willingly participated in sex on an office floor, which ended in blood and tears.
I'd be uncomfortable talking to GB after that - from his perspective she must seem to be a complete bunny boiler.
Wow...I wouldn't have said I was THAT bad...:(
I wouldn't have thought so either...