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Here I go again
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So starting my 3rd year at college, not to bad, a few mates have gone off to uni but considering I mostly hung out with people in the year below me its not to bad, but this year in my tutor theres a girl i just click with, I feel i do anyway, she's mates with a friend of mine and I'm just not really sure what to do, I mean i really do like this girl, she's a bit mental but that just makes her diffrent from everyone else which i really like
we've known each other properly for a week, so just not really sure what to do
So starting my 3rd year at college, not to bad, a few mates have gone off to uni but considering I mostly hung out with people in the year below me its not to bad, but this year in my tutor theres a girl i just click with, I feel i do anyway, she's mates with a friend of mine and I'm just not really sure what to do, I mean i really do like this girl, she's a bit mental but that just makes her diffrent from everyone else which i really like
we've known each other properly for a week, so just not really sure what to do
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yes, i know i should but I'm shit at these things...i mean how the fuck am i meant to know if she likes me, I'm fucked up like this
Well you dont know until you ask her, thats the risk you take. Is she worth that risk?
Yes, i really do think so, We've not really had alot of convosations because we've hung out in a group alot of the time, so theres not many chances to have a convosation one to one...idk, i'm stupid in this sort of stuff
Everyone is worth the risk. Why wouldn't you get over yourself and just try. It costs you nothing and gives you the closure you want.
:yes: At least you hang out in the same group of friends so you're not total strangers
The best way to do it, but this is something you usually have to find out yourself, is "to just do it." Go up to her, talk her up, etc. She won't eat you. Don't sit there and hope for a miracle to happen. Just work towards what you want to achieve, talk to her, assess her reactions and mood and stuff and ask her to do something (don't say "something" but think of something specific) sometimes (not sometimes, but some time specific).
If you don't treat this as if she was sacred and you terribly want it, but just as if you think she is a'ight and might think you are a'ight too and don't give too much crap if this all works out or not, not only will you not be nervous and not be crushed if she is not interested, but - out of some reason - your success rate it way higher.
With my girl I was sure I could not score, so I was just regular, relaxed, chilled me. As opposed to nervous, as-if-on-a-difficult-job-interview me, which makes me magically unattractive. Well, what do you know, I'm in. For the first time after I listened to my own advice.
go print that out and pin it on your toilet wall.