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soooo a mate (best m8) is just being a cow owes me money sed she'll give me it next day its now been a week and still ent got it still has ma nail varnish too argghhh!!!! had a top of mine 4 months too always saying got no money wen she has a job she annoyes me soooo much!!! kinda m8 who always lets me down saying she'll come town and lets me down wen im in town!!! other m8 whos a older women sed isnt being argumentive part of depression like shes blaming me and its my fault :crying:
Seriously i h8 being walked all over and getting blame !!! argghhh wannaa cut!!! seriously feel so shit!!! i h8 myself i reali fooking do!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Shes the only one who kept me going in life if honest didnt wanna upset her tho sui i duno anymore i just dont know x
Seriously i h8 being walked all over and getting blame !!! argghhh wannaa cut!!! seriously feel so shit!!! i h8 myself i reali fooking do!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Shes the only one who kept me going in life if honest didnt wanna upset her tho sui i duno anymore i just dont know x
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Same thing had happened with my mate. She had owed me 15 pound it had taken her 5 weeks to pay it back but she did in the end. She is the type who teands to let you down but I gave her a lecture on money everyday untill she got bored of listening to me and had decided to pay me back. I got the lecture out of a book. She will pay you back trust me friends do take tiime to pay back x
I've been the friend before who has taken a while to pay someone back, and thats when I had the money, always missing them or not having the money on me when I did bump into them etc.
Your friend is probly feeling at least a little bad about it, dont worry about it too much. You know for next time to bring up the fact she took ages to get it back to you if she ever asks again. As it has only been a week, I'd be concerned if you needed the money, otherwise it hasnt been that long.
Just need to find the right balance as to avoid permanent damage of a good friendship, but not coming accross as non-assertive.
Good luck anyway.
Is it the purple nail varnish? And your fav sweater?
Sometimes life deals you a tough hand. Maybe take her dog hostage and negotiate an exchange?
You can buy nail varnish again
but unfortunetly you can't by a friend
I don't know - and i don't mean to cause offence so sorry if i do - but this small situation seems to be hinting at a bigger one. From the posts that i have seen from you and in chat you seem like a geniune nice, caring person but you bring yourself down way too much. It just looks like to me that you find problems that aren't huge and turn it so you can blame and hate yourself, which you totally don't deserve.
Depression is a pretty complex illness, and effects people differently. I wouldn't take it as your friend telling you its your fault because it doesn't look as if you have confronted her. I hate being walked over as well, but i think you need to take this issue up with your friend instead of yourself.
*hug*
Have a go, and let us know how you get on xxxxx
Not if you get them back it doesnt.
I never get anything back :d
its all the using, she does, trust me she never wants to know me unless down or anything,, i get suicidal i try to talk to her and she ignore me she dont care about no1 but her.... friends dont use people... or say ill meet u then says not meeting u now.. or stands u up in town.. i defo wudnt do that to anyone noway!! u cant say thats ok to do surely..
Thank naun ur right i do blame it on myself a lot but surely its my fault else why do it? ur a lovely girl too hope to see u in chat again some time i always remember to go on wen its bloody shut :grump:
lol!!
xx
I think at one point we have all had a friend like that, and even though you care about her for your own benefit i think it would be best to maybe not contact her as much.
I think in this situation since you seem fragile you need to think about yourself here. What she is doing is not ok, especially if she knows what you are going through. If she isn't listening when you try to talk to her i think you need to put it behind you and move on, which is frustrating but i really think it would be the best thing to do.
Its not your fault for the way someone chooses to act, and its not your fault for the way she is treating you. Your worth more than that. :yes:
I'll lend you my ears.
One bitten, twice shy. If she is so relentlessly 'using' you, why do you lend her stuff anyway?
So, to paraphrase, "Its not your fault for the way someone chooses to act, but it is your fault if you keep on continually letting her do so."
xx
It is always hard to know whether it is worth staying friends with someone, or whether it is time to let them go. Have a look at the Friend or Foe article as it shows the difference between a good and a bad friend.
It is up to you whether you should be dumping your mate or giving her another chance. The best way to decide this is probably to have a proper chat with her and let her know your true feelings and how she always lets you down. If she shows no difference to this then the best option is probably to find a new friend who will treat you the way you deserve to be treated, and the way you treat them too.
Good luck!
Ive spoken to her loooooads she still carrys on last week was going town so i get into town then she says sorry cant come aint got no money oooh well ill live,, thanks xx