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it all started when i talked to my crush on facebook. and i was wayyyy hammered. so we got talking and then he told me that i was the hottest girl in shool. so then we got talking and one thing led to another and now he wants us to...well you know. what the hell am i to do!?
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Are you sure they are not virgins, I thought that when I was younger, turns out people were bullshitting.
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I agree with Strubs & Lexi - you clearly don't want to; so don't. Don't let him pressurise you into doing something you're not ready to do.
well, lets not make this assumption. I was 15 and I remember thinking, "god, finally. Took long enough for a girlfriend to come along."
just to remind people that sex under 16 is illegal in the uk.
OP If you are in any way unsure then it is worth waiting til you feel 100% about doing it, and when u do remember to consider things like protecting urself against pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases.
it is also worth remembering that the majority of people who lose their virginity young regret not waiting, sexual relationships are marathons, not sprints and it is worth waiting for someone special, regardless of whether other people in your school have done it or not.
source?
Doesnt mean that it was right, or that you were ready for it
Well I was. I guess I should know. When is someone ready for this? When you want it and don't have second thoughts. What should have been "wrong" about it?
About the age of consent, yes, of course, officially you are a delinquent when you are under this limit, gasp. But are there really couples under the age of sixteen that say "shoot, we both want it, but we just can't!". I guess, but meh...
For me it is just a law to protect minors from older people who just have their own gratification in mind, not to make young couple's lives harder.
Well, sex isn't one of the best thing for everyone, but I reckon for most or at least many many people. So you will very probably find it pleasuring. Your body and hormonal household will make you want it soon enough, so don't do anything that doesn't feel right for you know.
If your first time is with the wrong person and for the wrong reasons, you will always regret that. When you are older, you will be glad that you waited for the right person to come along, no matter what your friends did.
Bits that stand out to me are:
Hopefully lots of food for thought.
That should tell you all you need to know. You aren't ready. If you don't have any physical attraction to this boy, your first sexual experience WONT be pleasurable. You're both under the age of concent, and if he pressures you into sex when you don't want it, it's rape. Plain and simple.
i'm sure i read it on here somewhere awhile ago, ive looked on google but have only found a few articles
a) There not; guys especially often..ahem...exaggerate their notches on the bedstead, so to speak, along with other things.
b) So what? What other people are doing shouldn't affect whether or not YOU are ready.
My suggestion, lose your virginity to someone you are in a decent relationship with, with someone you trust and is looking out for you. After all it is a VERY vulnerable position to be in. To the people saying that the fact that she cannot see it would pleasurable is proof she is not ready; well, not sure I agree with that. My girlfriend had no experience. Had never pleasured herself, could not see that it would be pleasurable, god, she didn't even know that fingering WAS pleasurable. But despite this when we slowly began to explore the physical side of our relationship she enjoyed it very much indeed, though she was a year or two older.
Certainly don't let him pressure you into anything. My advice? Wait. Wait for someone you trust at least, if not love. And don't believe everything people say that they've done.
But it sounds like your not ready for this. But if you do, please please please read up on contraception, how to put a condom on, ALL of it. I no at your age i wouldnt have known how to put a condom on properly, so im taking a stab in the dark that you wouldnt know either.
But i cant stress to you enough, pleaseeeeeeeeee think about this hard.
The fact that he's ignoring you if you don't put out is definitely a warning sign that he's only there for sex, not for your feelings.
Yes, don't worry, you did the right thing!
Seriously, this guy sounds like a complete arsehole who's only after sex. Explain to him that you don't want him, and if he persists, I think what he did to you counts as sexual harrassment, so telling the police should get his attention.
of course you did
From what you said, that's quite simply illegal. It covers sexual abuse and honestly, this guy sounds like someone to keep well away from. If you're 13, he's 15 and he's pressuring you for sex - that's all he wants, he more than likely doesn't care how you feel.
Although of course, keep your own mind open, just consider what I've said.