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im so sick of people thinking im gay or bisexual
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:no: im totally supportive of gay rights and dont have a problem with it, but im worried people seem to think im gay and not that being gay is a bad thing but i happen not to be. and its annnoying because im looking for a girlfriend and ive never had one and i didint realize that when i looked in the mirror my short hair and metrosexual style of dress maybe why people think im gay, plus i have both ears pierced. maybe i should grow a beard . and its annoying because im straight but just being myself by the way i dress, and im worried that people think im closeted and ill have to explain to them that thats not who i am. im just really worried the way i dress is going to affect my luck with women, plus i like baseball and i dont cook though i like art. and i know what your thinking he's protesting to much so he must be gay no! im just tired and worried people think i am, because ive never had a gf and want one badly. and i feel that if i have to prove im straight people are gonna think im gay on the other hand if i let it go people are also going to think im gay, so now i watch what i wear and how i act because im so worried women wont even look at me as bf candidate. i sometimes wanna end my life because people think im gay im so sick of it!
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I don't think many people think "is he gay" to other that often, unless they're gay themselves.
But if you dress and style in a way that makes you think that others think that you are gay maybe change your style? At least your confidence stops suffering and you'll see if the floodgates burst then drowning you in a woman-tsunami.
Personally, I would rather be alive and gay than dead and straight. When you look at the world's problems, your worries are rather insignificant so killing yourself seems way over the top. If you find the people you hang out with think you're gay, make new friends who are open and accepting.
If it's just your clothing and haircut that are giving people the wrong impression, tone it down if it affects you that badly, because your 'metrosexual' look is obviously not something that you really believe in. If you did believe in it, you'd tell people to 'f**k off' and live your life as you want to. I have a number of 'alternative' looking guys and they are as straight as anything.
I guess you have 2 choices either change your look to be more attractive to miss average and her peers or try to make new friends who are more in tune with you.
I dont think growing a beard will help though, i am sure gay men grow beards to.
I think its important to be true to yourself though you should not really have to bend to other peoples likes and i am sure there are loads of woman out there who would enjoy your company.
Good luck
Reminds me of that time I was at a party and this hot guy came in. In this lumberjack shirt, a little bit rough, but groomed, beard stubble etc. and I thought "Yea great all girls will be on him now and I can go home blue balled." Didn't take 20 minutes and he was making out with the hosts brother in some corner. They were boyfriends.
Just change your looks. It's not that hard. You make yourself look "gay" (as society stereotypes it. The gay men I know are all rather manly and the flamboyant, limp-wristed are all straight) and complain then.
Then dress to impress.
You sure they dont just want to take him shopping with them?