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Can someone tell me how you knew you were in love?
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I've been with my current BF for just over a year with a few break ups in between, the longest break up was 3 Months and it was pure hell on both of us although we remained friends on-line. It wasn't until I had a week long trip planned that it hit me and I called him while I was away and had no computer access and as soon as I returned we met for dinner & talked, initially we didn't get back together but soon afterwards we did 
. Having had very few relationships I am not sure if this is love or not. So I was just wondering how do you know for sure? What are the signs? Please share your stories......
. Having had very few relationships I am not sure if this is love or not. So I was just wondering how do you know for sure? What are the signs? Please share your stories...... 0
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This too. Good analogy!
i agree with SCC. theres just no way of describing when you know to be completely honest. its probably different for every person.
If you can go out for a romantic meal together.
If you can talk about anything and everything (even bodily functions!!)
If you can sit and play games together.
If you can wear your tracksuit bottoms and hoody.
If you can talk on the phone for hours.
If you can be around his family comfortably.
If you can be with your friends and his friends with him.
And if you entirely comfortable and yourself around him. I think
I just feel so incomplete without him, I think thats the best description of how I feel. I think of him almost constantly and we do have an amazing relationship, our lives are an open book to oneanother, there is nothing we can't talk about. Leaving on that trip to do something I love to do (my main hobby) and feeling completely homesick about leaving is where it actually sunk in for me. I really feel alone when we are not together and once we are together that feeling completely changes, he makes me sooo happy! I hate living apart but we spent our first night together the other night and it was pure hell.......no sleep for either of us. Im almost 46 and am having hot flashes, mood swings etc, we are both very light sleepers.....OMG! It's hell apart or together!
Thanks...yep this describes how I feel......
I think we need to work on the Family part but all the rest is no problem.
Also, love is definitely when you are fully able and comfortable to poop when your OH is in the room
fuck love, if you like the feeling and want to be with him call it love if you will, but don't do something against your consciousness just because someone might not call it love what you have going on.
agreed
i dont think it matters. if ur happy stay together and u will no at some point u cant really explain hoe but u will no... if ur not sure ask yourself wot life wud b like without him... if the answer is unbearable then u no u def love him.:thumb: nipped!
I'm of the conviction that if I truely loved the person I fell in love with - that I will never feel the same way about anyone. Since my absence from that person, I've felt a real void. A lack of something I've never been able to put my finger on. I'm yet to know the effect of truely loving a someone past the first, and actually feel a disinterest in the whole thing. I'd rather wait for someone I mutualy related to and can have fun with, or be single. Though, it wouldn't be the same.
When you really love someone, you build your world around them - they are your foundation. When they're gone, everything colapses. You can functionally recover, but it's never the same again. It's like earth disappearing, and everything on it is left hanging. Atleast that's how it was for me.
My idea is that "love" is just an ideal derrived from our first experiences of "it". From that we draw our expectations on those who fit the preset criteria. As miserable as it sounds, thats the only way I can rationalise it now, and the amount of time, effort and emotion I invested in one person.