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what does this mean?
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if someone you're sleeping with gets drunk and tells you they think you would do distasteful things for sexual gratification, what does that say about what they think of you?
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i tried to get him to say exactly what he was thinking when he said that, but he just dodged the question.
and no, it doesn't sound good.
Either, forget all about it, or hunt him down to explain himself. I would say the first option might be best.
there's an old saying...in wine there is truth..
Theres also and old saying... the pissed guy talks rubbish.
Either forget about it, or challenge him - which he will only deny
Wishful thinking may be? Depends what you find distasteful. I have been happy to try all sorts of slightly kinky things with men I loved (including my OH).
What wording did they actually use?
Just re-read my post and realised it could be ambiguous. I meant, may be wishful thinking on HIS part, not yours,i.e. he is testing the water to see if you want to try something new/different.
his words were: i think you would do things that are distasteful for sexual pleasure.
actually, i am the one who has brought up different things...i am adventurous in bed. he seems a lot more sheltered, if you will..when i suggested we watch each other masturbate, he said he'd never done that before in front of anyone and didn't think he could do it.
it upsets me because when i asked him to say what he was specifically thinking of when he said that, he dodged the question...i think it basically means he has no respect for me at all...and if that's the case, i won't have anything to do with him again...
which is why i need your opinions
I think you need to find out what he finds "distasteful" (odd word to use) and why. Then apply liberal quantities of alcohol and take things gently. :flirt:
yes, distasteful was an odd word to use, i will follow your advice. the alchohol won't be a problem though, he was quite drunk when he said it.