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Pregnant and dont know what to do?
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ive just found out im pregnant and dont know what to do!! ive been with my partner 2 years and he dont think its the right time, but he already has two children 1 he has brought up 1 is his own and i think his worried they will get left out! the thing is i had a termination last year and its emotionally scaring i dont think i can go through it again! but how do i kow im ready? and im only 17
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You need to work out what YOU want.
Dont feel pressurised into having an abortion if you dont want one, and dont feel pressurised into having children if youre not ready. its a big decision, that only you can make.
at the end of the day though, if you feel unable to have an abortion yet unable to support a child, maybe adoption would be a good option?
have you talked to your bf? does he know you're pregnant?
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hmmm, one thought that popped into my head which doesn't help alot is, with your career, would he be following you around the world? or would it be possible for him to look after the baby at home whilst you were away- how long would the overseas travel last?
Wow if your not ready dont do it! theres nithing worse than having a baby and regreting it expecially as u may hold a grudge because u could be traveling around the world!! My doctor has booked a termination even though i didnt ask for it! but ever since i havent stopped crying and thinking why am i doing this! my boyfreinds the opposite he dont think its a good idea!! wow when i fell pregnant i wanted it to be a happy thing but all ive done is cry!! ahhhh what are we gonna do x
everyone is different but i would never be able to do that, i think that must be harder than both of them, x yea ive spoke to my boyfreind but he doesnt think its the right time but he said he will support me whatever. The other thing he has a child and i think his worried they will get pushed out a bit x but he only has he at weekends shes only 2 she will prob like having a baby x
its so hard i know but you said u want to abort so u should go with what u feel, i know what u mean but u cant have a baby because of that im sure your family member would have wanted u to do whats best for you!! and only u can make that decision x
Wow i know its a huge decision!!! but whenever i think about having a termination i burst into tears, the only way to stop myself crying is to tell myself il think about keeping it???? i cant help but feel thats telling me something x
What did your boyfriend say?
even if the guy wont be there for you and the baby keep the baby anyways... i got prego at 17 and a senior in highschool but my son didn't stop me from achieving goals in life. his dad isn't around but me and my son are still happy... what im trying to say is if your worried that guy will leave you then just worry about yourself and your unborn child. if he didn't want another child then he shouldn't have had sex without protection