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I have never done this before.
There's someone I've been talking to online for about 6.5 years. He said something to me a few weeks ago on Facebook, which I managed to take completely the wrong way, (nothing unusual there) which lead to me asking if he wanted to meet me or something.
He said it's fine; but we have to meet in a public place.
We discussed this again on Wednesday/Thursday and he gave me the name of a place where we could meet. (I had to ask where this was)
Now, is there anything else we ideally need to do? I have read the articles on here; but can't find much else from them.
There's someone I've been talking to online for about 6.5 years. He said something to me a few weeks ago on Facebook, which I managed to take completely the wrong way, (nothing unusual there) which lead to me asking if he wanted to meet me or something.
He said it's fine; but we have to meet in a public place.
We discussed this again on Wednesday/Thursday and he gave me the name of a place where we could meet. (I had to ask where this was)
Now, is there anything else we ideally need to do? I have read the articles on here; but can't find much else from them.
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Be careful if he's plying you with alcohol.
I think though that after 6.5 years you would be safer than if it was only 4 months, if he was only looking to drug you or something he would've suggested it alot earlier and probably left you alone when you said no. (just an opinion though)
- World of Warcraft (cafés in London and my town)
- Sundissential (club event, so obviously at nightclubs)
- B2T (also a club event)
- Ukrides (roller coaster community, at fairgrounds)
- TheSite.org (user name "Stafford", local dance class)
If the places are public, like my above examples, then I'd say go for it :-) My World of Warcraft was the best example, ganing me some friends I consider to be amongst my best, who I now see a few times a year.
Also, make sure you know where you are. It's probaly best to meet somewhere you both know well if possible.
And- don't go anywhere privite. Including walking down alleys or whatever to get somewhere. Stick to busy places. And as Lexi said, if you go for a drink or anything stay with it and buy your own.
And, also as Lexi said, considering he wants to meet somewhere public it'll probaly be okay. I bet he is as worried as you.
Xx
This is what we're doing and it's very close (next to, I believe) university.
Yeah, we're meeting somewhere public. Mentioned this somewhere else and someone said "if he's saying "we can't meet at my home" then he's got something to hide" - I didn't take it like that though. I thought he was doing it for my safety and his. I do know where he lives; but don't know that area at all.
3 years ago, the subject of meeting each other was brought up (misunderstanding on his part, I think) and we both agreed it wasn't a good idea; as I was only 17 at the time.
Thanks guys.:)
Public and let one or two people know where you are.
I've met 7 people offline I think. And not all of them were in safe places haha. But they all went well. Minus a very very very awkward one, but that was in a cafe and I made an excuse to leave.
I think I'm just too trusting/confident in myself that I'll kick their fucking arses if they try anything I don't like
Met him today and he is so different IRL. (he doesn't shut up on MSN - he didn't talk much today; neither did I)
Aside from me ending up at the wrong place, it went very well.
Yeah, that's what I thought too.
He ended up giving me whatever lurgy it is he has right now - lovely.
Lots of people (including myself) are more confident online and can express views and opinions easier than IRL.
I'm like this too. I emailed him last night and he said that part of the reason for him being quiet was because he wasn't feeling too well.
He did tell me he was going cancel because he wasn't feeling too well - but he didn't want to upset me.
You gonna arrange to meet him again when hes feeling himself
I wouldn't mind; but we haven't discussed it yet.
Again, it went very well and he talked a lot more today than he did last time. I met his son too.