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not on a par with this modern world
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Im 26 and feel so out of it with modern dating and the way people are! Most girls i know are in/out of relationships and i have barely been in one havent had any experience of sex. I get told i am pretty and that i am fun to be around but i just dont have any luck or confidence with opposite sex!
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I'm sorry to hear that you don't feel you have much confidence with the opposite sex - but you say that you've been told you're pretty and fun to be around so I doubt the problem is with you. Maybe you need to just find the right atmosphere for meeting people of the opposite sex who are like-minded.
Have you joined any clubs or things like that where you can meet people - perhaps just as friends at first - I have found in my experience I meet people in informal situations like this with a shared interest rather than going out on the pull or doing something specifically to pick up the opposite sex.
What I'm trying to say is that there are great people out there and fantastic people out there who are single and can remain single not because of anything wrong with them.. but just because they lack confidence. I think the best way to get more confidence in general is just to throw yourself in, perhaps in social situations you feel comfortable in (for me, it's LAN partys, its a complete sausage fest but I know lots about computers and end up talking to -everyone- lots). This is easier said than done, I dropped out of my first year of University due to a number of reasons, one of which being I was so shy (hence the name ) I didn't talk to anyone.
It's a catch-22 because you get confidence by going into situations, talking to guys, asking them out.. but you can't go into those situations until you have the confidence!
Have you spoken to your friends about your situation? They have a better insight into who and what you are. What do they say?