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is it bad sex?
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i am a lady who often takes a while to cum. i rely on clitoral stimulation as my partner is, shall we say, on the petite side. thing is, i always feel our sex is rushed. foreplay is mostly non existent and when he does go down on me, it's hurried and i can sense he cant be bothered so i often pretend to cum. (infact, in the year we have been together, i have only cum two or three times with him). then he enters me and cums within seconds and i am left feeling pretty much awful but pretending all is ok. the few times i have admitted i didn't cum and he did, he still never made an effort to make me cum.
i love him and i know you guys will tell me to talk to him about it but i cant. he would not like this one little bit, an argument would ensue then he would probably finish with me.
dont know why i am writing this but reading it, i think i know my answer. thanks for your time guys.
i love him and i know you guys will tell me to talk to him about it but i cant. he would not like this one little bit, an argument would ensue then he would probably finish with me.
dont know why i am writing this but reading it, i think i know my answer. thanks for your time guys.
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option b) talk to partner about bad sex, try to fix it, get good sex
option c) leave partner, get new partner in hopes that it is good sex
The choice is yours.
As a guy i think pretention z rely bad
If you can't talk to him about what is going on in the bedroom, and both do the work to make it better, you will never be able to solve any problems that arise outside the bedroom.
It is a sensative topic, but life is too short to pretend things are fine when they are not, in or out of the bedroom.
like you said, you already know your answer. good luck!