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Going down on her
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Why is it so taboo even today? I mean even in this day and age, people are fine with anal but not going down on a girl? Why? I read the articles on this site about teaching guys how to do it and even that article made it sound like guys who do it, should only do it as favour once in a while since the gitl does it so much. It's bugged me for a while. Its absolutely necessary to give a guy blowjob (doesn't matter if its easier to get him off or not) but a girl should be thankful if she gets sex in return forget him going down?
I'm glad that my bf is typically the one begging me to let him go down on me, but I had to go through a few bfs like in my description to find him at last! And I plan on keeping him for a long LONG time, hopefully forever. But still it bugs the hell out of me when I hear a female friend complain about how her bf never returns it but expects her to do it a few times a day at least, and if/when she musters up the courage to ask him they look at them in disgust. Why? Why is it that there are a lot of women that can't get off easily but men 90% off the time do get off easily still there's more attention paid to men? or they, as in men, expect you to do it no matter what. I thought we were becoming more open when it comes to sex but I guess the men still rule the world, and is mostly based on doing what pleasures the man more.
Girls need to stop being so uptight about sex and put men above themselves, if you want something ask if the guy doesn't do it in return then don't just keep doing it and ruin him for the rest of us cause he's gonna expect the same from his future gfs.
I'm glad that my bf is typically the one begging me to let him go down on me, but I had to go through a few bfs like in my description to find him at last! And I plan on keeping him for a long LONG time, hopefully forever. But still it bugs the hell out of me when I hear a female friend complain about how her bf never returns it but expects her to do it a few times a day at least, and if/when she musters up the courage to ask him they look at them in disgust. Why? Why is it that there are a lot of women that can't get off easily but men 90% off the time do get off easily still there's more attention paid to men? or they, as in men, expect you to do it no matter what. I thought we were becoming more open when it comes to sex but I guess the men still rule the world, and is mostly based on doing what pleasures the man more.
Girls need to stop being so uptight about sex and put men above themselves, if you want something ask if the guy doesn't do it in return then don't just keep doing it and ruin him for the rest of us cause he's gonna expect the same from his future gfs.
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Again the strange thing is that talking to many guys, going down on a girl seems to be one thing they cant get enough of! :chin:
I'd hold onto that fella of yours if i were you!
:yes: That's always been my impression too.
I would agree, though my own experience is fairly limited. Though of course in a friendly discussion with friends if the girls start moaning about how horrible giving blowjobs are I think it's the natural reaction of guys to start saying vaginas aren't always just these beautiful fresh things either.
But other than that, it's a great buzz knowing you are pleasuring someone whichever way isn't it? I have noticed in porn though it is always strip the girl, squeeze her breasts, she gives the guy a blow-job, he has sex with her, then ejaculates on her face / breasts. Perhaps this gives guys an unrealistic expectation of sex if they watch too much.
I dunno why I made this post, i suppose it was mainly because lately one of my best friend's boyfriend has been bugging her for blowjobs all the time and never returns the favour, she doesn't mind cause she likes pleasuring him, but when she asks or it he flat out refuses to do it, and she feels really bad about herself because of that. He's quite selfish in bed too, reminds me of my first boyfriend. But what can you do.
After that I even developed a fear of letting a guy go down on me thinking maybe I really am nasty down there. But that was a long time ago before I met my current guy. Now I don't even have to ask him, like its with him when I'm the one doing it to him. Surprise blowjobs are always amazing! And I'm sure most girls would like the same treatment in return. And he does. It's always him who initiates it, and there were many times when I interrupted him and stopped him/pulled him up for sex instead, thinking he might think it's nasty too. Then there was this not letting myself go and not being able to just enjoy myself thing too, and thinking about what he was doing down there but then thinking god he's neglecting his needs to pleasure me and all that stuff. Took a little getting used to at first! But yeah, he's amazing and I love him too much. He's awesome in bed, and loves giving me just as much as I love giving pleasure to him!
I just want the same for my girl friend, don't want her to go through something similar that I had to! And it got me thinking if it's just me and my friends or is it something that's common.
Slightly off topic, the one thing that has always struck me as strange, is that, while he seems to enjoy blow jobs, he never - ever - comes in my mouth. Never has! I've asked him why, but he says he doesn't know. He just seems to hold back. So, eventually, I'll stop and we'll have normal sex. Whereupon, he'll come almost immediately - like he was ready to burst! Anyone heard of this before or got any ideas how to persuade him to come in my mouth?