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Low Sex Drive Girlfriend
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I am a 19 year old male and have a 19 year old girlfriend. we have been together for 5 years now and been each others first for everything. She has a very sex drive that is low to non existent most times. We are at different colleges 400 miles apart and even with the separation i thought it would improve her drive but when we see each other its the same thing, very low. She tells me her friends think and want sex a lot and wishes she could be like them. She likes sex and can orgasm easily but is very rarely in the mood or has a thought about it. She thinks she has a problem and doesn't know how to fix it.
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I was also 19 when I lost my virginity. I was wildly flattered that this guy thought that way about me. He was witty and intelligent, made me laugh etc: a great friend - but I wasn't that interested in him physically. Neither of us really understood why, but I realised pretty soon that there was a certain spark missing and - much to his disappointment - ended the relationship.
It was another 2 or 3 years before I actually fell in love with someone, and it was only then that I understood what had been lacking in my previous relationships.
she might love you
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dont bin her .....
why dont yous to sit and have a chat and see a doctor because it could be stress her mormones
it has nothing to do with loving you because she obviouslys does if yous have been together that long
keep it strong and i would see a doctor x
Don't get me wrong. I never suggested that your girl doesn't love you, but there is a difference between loving someone and being "in love" that it sometimes takes several relationships to understand.
Stress can certainly be an issue with some people, as can hormones, but as this is your first relationship, I would not assume that whatever is wrong is necessarily a medical matter.
Then again, it could be something else, but this is my (unfortunately painful) experience and really if there are problems you should address them sooner rather than later, instead of hanging out for hope that the relationship you want will blossom out of chance.
Always those damn mormones. :impissed: