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Threesome? To do or not to do ....
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My other half and I are considering trying this out. It's been a long term fantasy of ours, but lately temptation is getting strong to move it from fantasy to reality.
What do you guys think? Those that have tried it, was it worth it? Would you do it again? Did your relationship fall apart afterwards?
Should also add that we've been together for a long time, and never had any trust issues ...
Any feedback appreciated
What do you guys think? Those that have tried it, was it worth it? Would you do it again? Did your relationship fall apart afterwards?
Should also add that we've been together for a long time, and never had any trust issues ...
Any feedback appreciated
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It can work, I know people who have made it work, but it isn't for me. I like the fantasy of it, but there are some fantasies which shouldn't be made reality.
£100 says it was him
:yes: Innit.
Threesomes are a good excuse to sleep with someone else whilst not counting it as cheating. Fine if you can accept that, or want to do the same.
It's not so good if you're doing it as a last-ditch attempt to spice up a flagging sex drive. Get some handcuffs and a whip.
Want to put a wager on it?
I'm a bit baffled by this. I'm not genuinely bi, but would it be anti-man for me to kiss another guy for fun? I don't think people should just do what their partner wants them to, but then I'm all for letting people decide for themselves what they want to do.
Seriously, who cares if it's anti-feminist (which it isn't)? If all parties are up for it then it makes no difference.
It's been discussed for years, but more on a fantasy level. Recently while watching a particularly good threesome scene, the discussion turned to making it a reality. Not sure who brought it up first, but we are both keen on the idea.
It is a FFM threesome, but that's because thats my fantasy as well. Am I Bi, wouldn't know ... but i do know that I find females attractive, and their have been times that I've wanted to go that extra step with another woman.
it's not about spicing up the sex life, we are pretty adventurous in that area :yes: :yes:
Oh and can I just add he's being the more cautious one.
Last time I checked, they were all for women having the freedom to explore their own sexuality in safety, free from prejudice.
It's strange how every time you open your mouth you manage to spunk out complete bollocks. Ever thought of getting a job as a late-night phone-in DJ?
If you know what they're in favour of why are you asking what they are? I think someone else might be talking bollocks here...
Only about 5% of the time actually - and I was a radio presenter for 2 years on a late show funnily enough
Anyway, the automatic assumption was a woman was doing that just to please her man and it was "anti-feminist" when all along the lady in question is just as keen as the man. So perhaps those who jump on the feminist bandwagon might like to stop and think before leaping in next time.
Don't give me the whole 'everyone is bi' thing, because it isn't the case. Yes, sexuality is a spectrum but the majority of people of both genders are pretty much only heterosexual, in any real sense.
Sorry, I ellided the word feminist from my sentence.
I don't know what militant feminists are. Do they blow up things?
Aye, I knew, that's why I said it:p
Yes, people who jump in like that are a bit retarded. Feminism is about women having the same freedoms and responsibilities as men, and if they want to have lots of sex with lots of different people then that's part of what feminism's about.
I don't like the school of feminism which is about how much fucking one does, I think feminism is more politically refined than that, but that's another debate for another day.
Are they? I'm not sure I'm convinced.
Maybe I just hang around with really fruity people, but most 'straight' people I know are at least curious about having sex with members of the same gender. And similarly with those who are gay/lesbian.
If you're not bi or gay, why would kissing another guy be fun? Really, if you're not attracted to that person, what is the point exactly? And this really is my point - the whole Katy Perry fake-bi-just-wanted-to-try-it-cherry-lipgloss-oooohhhh thing is usually about making a statement to other people. Mainly, these girls think guys will like them better because of the myth that guys prefer bisexual girls and there's also the hippy idea of supposedly not conforming to 'the norm', which makes this person appear more interesting.
And your reverse example doesn't work. If the Katy Perry generation proves anything, it's that it's still a man's world. Women doing things to please men that men wouldn't do in return. Lots of girls get turned on by man-on-man action and the idea of a MMF threesome, but how many heterosexual boyfriends would entertain the idea out of either needing to please her or in order to appear deviant and open-minded? Now, it would work if men in their mass started to believe that the only way they're going to get laid is to kiss guys in clubs. If that happened, suddenly, the amount of men claiming to be bi, or 'open-minded', would rocket. I wouldn't be one of them, but there'd be enough of these men to show a noticable change in demographic anyway.
And I'm so tired of this "Am I bi, I wouldn't know" thing. Why's it so fashionable to not know if you're potentially attracted to one half of the world's population or not?
Absolutely.
I've had this discussion with countless women in the past and at 35 I have never ever met a woman who claims to like that sort of thing.
And I'm curious about jumping of a highrise building. I wonder what the feeling is like, flying through the air, feeling free but knowing that death is immediately inevitable. I wonder about what I'd experience on impact. Would it be instantanious death or would I feel, if only for a brief moment, my body squish and my bones crumble. I guess this makes me lemming-curious.
I've also been curious about what it would be like to take someone's life. How would it feel to murder someone. Maybe putting a gun to someone's head and pulling the trigger. Would I feel a sense of power, kinda like a god? Would I feel sick? Would I get some sort of perverted arousal out of it? I guess this makes me murderor-curious.
But yeah, you're probably part of some fruity scene or something.
It is a man's world when it comes to dating and mate selection. Well, it's an alpha-male's world, anyhow, for men deemed of less worthy stock, it's worse than being female.
Paternal custody of a child is a different issue. It's inheritantly sexist, in the way that much 'positive discrimination' is racist. But these are relativelty recent conventions (and not good ones, I might add). But when it comes to sex and sexuality, it's definately still a man's world. All women in movies have to be under 40, for the most part. Older men are still cool though, like sex-bomb SNP-supporting Sean Connery. Maybe it's not a man's world, more like it's an alpha-male (read bastard)'s world.
And I have met girls who like the sort of thing I mentioned. It's funny how many times I've had this conversation with men who've point blankly refused to even entertain the idea that even the smallest minority of women can possibly entertain such thoughts.
Your constant generalisation is getting slightly annoying now. I didn't say women aren't in to that, I said no woman I've met has claimed to be in to it. Indeed the women I've spoken to about that sort of thing have said although they don't like girl on girl stuff, they'd rather watch that than 2 men.
Firstly, lets discuss MMF threesomes. If 'alpha males' weren't interested in this, how do you explain the number of footballers who end up having a spitroast with a woman? You can't get much more 'alpha male' than a Premiership footballer- rich, healthy, strong, handsome. Surely these footballers wouldn't be spitroasting, they'd be getting the woman and her friend into bed, if what you say is true?
Drawing pornography into the debate isn't helpful, my experience is that men get off on watching the women whilst women get off on imagining they are the woman.
I don't know many women who are interested watching gay sex, but I know several who are interested in a MMF threesome. They like the idea of DP, of spitroasting, they like the idea of being in the middle. I also know several who like the idea of a MFF threesome, they like the idea of having sex with a woman and a man at the same time. I also know several women who are repulsed by the idea of both.
I don't know why you can't accept this. The generalisations you make are very tiring, sexual fantasy is individual and everyone has slightly different fantasies about slightly different things.
Of all the women I know who've slept with a woman, either in a threesome or a twosome, none have done it to impress a man or make a man love them more. I'm sure it happens, but your assertion that all women who do this are bullied by domineering men is really quite offensive.
Well considering I've never experienced sex with another female, how else am I supposed to answer that question?? I would have been trying to be fashionable if I'd stated I WAS Bi, but I was honest and said I didn't know, for the simple reason that I don't. How could I call myself Bi if I'd never experienced anything more then a kiss with another girl :eek2:
Just requoting myself, but what part of my post made you assume I was considering this to keep my partner happy??? I clearly stated that it was a mutual fantasy.
Seems you have a bit of a chip on your shoulder. No matter what response you get, you'll find some lame counter argument
:thumb:
If I was attracted to one half of the worlds population, that would make me gay .... no?