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trust/jealousy issues
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Hi
A few months ago i saw some emails on my boyfriends account from a girl, and he was flirting with her. i confronted him and he promised to delete her from hus account. I discovered recently that he had not done this. Also he has been in touch with an ex who has spent a long time trying to split us up.He told me he was going to a friends house, and then went to see her instead, i only found out when he told me afterwards. Now i feel like i cant trust him at all, he is acting like he has done nothing wrong but he knew i was insecure about his ex being involved in his life because she had tried in the past to split us up. Now i am constantly suspicious about whether he is flirting with anyone else or cheatin on me and it is drivin me crazy because i was the most trustin person in the world before all this, and its really not me at all!in the beginning of our relationship i encouraged him and his ex to be friends as there was a lot of ill feeling between them and i didnt think it was healthy, but as she tried to convince him to break up with me and go back to her for obvious reasons i changed my mind! this is the second time he has gone behind my back with her; at the beginning of our relationship he arranged 2 meet her when i was on holiday and i found out when he sent a text 2 me that was meant 4 her by mistake.
sorry 4 the long post but i could really do with some advice, especially if u have been in a similar position where u dont feel like u can trust ur partner but have managed to overcome it.
thanks
sam
A few months ago i saw some emails on my boyfriends account from a girl, and he was flirting with her. i confronted him and he promised to delete her from hus account. I discovered recently that he had not done this. Also he has been in touch with an ex who has spent a long time trying to split us up.He told me he was going to a friends house, and then went to see her instead, i only found out when he told me afterwards. Now i feel like i cant trust him at all, he is acting like he has done nothing wrong but he knew i was insecure about his ex being involved in his life because she had tried in the past to split us up. Now i am constantly suspicious about whether he is flirting with anyone else or cheatin on me and it is drivin me crazy because i was the most trustin person in the world before all this, and its really not me at all!in the beginning of our relationship i encouraged him and his ex to be friends as there was a lot of ill feeling between them and i didnt think it was healthy, but as she tried to convince him to break up with me and go back to her for obvious reasons i changed my mind! this is the second time he has gone behind my back with her; at the beginning of our relationship he arranged 2 meet her when i was on holiday and i found out when he sent a text 2 me that was meant 4 her by mistake.
sorry 4 the long post but i could really do with some advice, especially if u have been in a similar position where u dont feel like u can trust ur partner but have managed to overcome it.
thanks
sam
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Who first brought up the getting back together again?
Just make sure this is his last chance, as I have heard so many times of people being on their last chance, time and time again.