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is this wrong, especially at 13 ?
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I know i'm posting alot but recently my best-friend wanted to know a few more things about me...
He wanted to know if i did a few things down there and i told him that i did, but then on MSN he said that he wanted to make a deal with me...
I asked what, then he said if he shows me his on webcam and i send a pic of my top half then he'd be less curious, i agreed (stupidly) and he said he didnt want to have the picture with my bra on so I blocked him then...
but the thing is, we started talking about it at a young age and now that we're old enough, i feel like something happening and i feel like i'm putting myself out, and something similar happend when we were 7-9yrs and i dont anything happening !
please help, i'm really upset over the fact but i dont know if it's someting serious or something that best-friends normally have an argument over
I know i'm posting alot but recently my best-friend wanted to know a few more things about me...
He wanted to know if i did a few things down there and i told him that i did, but then on MSN he said that he wanted to make a deal with me...
I asked what, then he said if he shows me his on webcam and i send a pic of my top half then he'd be less curious, i agreed (stupidly) and he said he didnt want to have the picture with my bra on so I blocked him then...
but the thing is, we started talking about it at a young age and now that we're old enough, i feel like something happening and i feel like i'm putting myself out, and something similar happend when we were 7-9yrs and i dont anything happening !
please help, i'm really upset over the fact but i dont know if it's someting serious or something that best-friends normally have an argument over
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Can you tell us a little background about this 'friend' of yours. Things such as how old he is, how long you've known him, if you've ever met him etc?
What I will say is that I would not go exposing yourself on the internet, Who knows what your photos will be used for, particularly with you being well underage too.
If you don't put your foot down, tell him it won't happen and be done with it. It's really that easy. And you blocked him just because of that? Either you don't like him, so block him therefore or tell him that's not on, or does that ask for too much assertiveness?
:yes: sorry to hear this guy has upset you - you were right to block him and you really shouldn't feel bad about this - as convincer says clear boundaries are really important.
Also, you need to consider the law. If you have pictures of him naked on your computer that's illegal, and you can be prosecuted for making indecent images of children. That's the same offence that people who download child pornography commit and it's really not something you want showing on your criminal record.
Learn to say "no" to your friends if they are asking for naked pictures of you. It's better to just block them. Maybe it's just me but blocking someone is the ultimatum, the final "fuck off". I must really dislike someone to block them.
I honestly dont understand anymore :S
Just forget about that whole thing. You might start talking to him again, or not, how you like it, but don't feel constricted in your every day life, as in, "I can't go over there, he stands there. I take the long route around." Just act as this is a past thing and forget about it. Tomorrow Tracey will pee her pants and she will be the new hot topic of the school.
It all goes past and you all soon grow out of it.
we dont have eye contact, and we dont talk as much now and our other friend says wierd stuff about us dating but, eveything's good now
It's something that's now in the past