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Hi everyone,
I am new to this but I need some advice, I have been with fiance for almost 8 years, I found out 6 months ago that he has been having phone sex with women he met in chat rooms on his mobile internet for about 5 years of our relationship (text, pictures and video clips). I felt so gutted when I found out and let down, and went through a bit of a rough time, thinking is it something wrong with me, and lost alot of self confidence. he said he had issues with his size from past relationships and found this helped his problem, he didnt want to bother me with it and to him it was just porn and that nothing else every came of it. I feel he still doesnt realise how big an issue this was and to me it is like he has cheated on me.
He got rid of his phone at the time and we are trying to get back on track as everything else about our relationship is great.. and felt it was worth working things out. I am finding it extremely hard to get over this problem in our relationship, I feel it also doesn't help when he is looking up horny housewives etc on the computer!!! I find it hard to trust again and find my self checking his phone, computer, emails etc which is now starting to cause conflict also. I just wish things were like they used to be as our relationship seemed perfect..
Can you please help??
I am new to this but I need some advice, I have been with fiance for almost 8 years, I found out 6 months ago that he has been having phone sex with women he met in chat rooms on his mobile internet for about 5 years of our relationship (text, pictures and video clips). I felt so gutted when I found out and let down, and went through a bit of a rough time, thinking is it something wrong with me, and lost alot of self confidence. he said he had issues with his size from past relationships and found this helped his problem, he didnt want to bother me with it and to him it was just porn and that nothing else every came of it. I feel he still doesnt realise how big an issue this was and to me it is like he has cheated on me.
He got rid of his phone at the time and we are trying to get back on track as everything else about our relationship is great.. and felt it was worth working things out. I am finding it extremely hard to get over this problem in our relationship, I feel it also doesn't help when he is looking up horny housewives etc on the computer!!! I find it hard to trust again and find my self checking his phone, computer, emails etc which is now starting to cause conflict also. I just wish things were like they used to be as our relationship seemed perfect..
Can you please help??
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if it's broken mend it, if you can't mend it, get rid of it.
I know this feeling so so well cadbury... but in my experience it never goes back to how it was. It can go forward and you can have something wonderful but you can't just change whats happened and go back unfortunately