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dating someone with mental ill health
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this is a weird one...
but if someone had a mental illness... i.e. they aren't psychotic or have multiple personalities or anything like that, but mild halucinations/flashbacks, and they have panic attacks and such and can get quite depressed sometimes but not suicidal, plus they have one physical thing which is caused by a mental issue (like tics with tourettes)
would you have an issue going out with them? I.e. would all of that (plus a couple of other things which are related to a health issue), set you running?
i know there has been talk of people that have had physical things that they thought might have put off potencial dates etc, but i think this is kind of different...
any opinons would be good...
but if someone had a mental illness... i.e. they aren't psychotic or have multiple personalities or anything like that, but mild halucinations/flashbacks, and they have panic attacks and such and can get quite depressed sometimes but not suicidal, plus they have one physical thing which is caused by a mental issue (like tics with tourettes)
would you have an issue going out with them? I.e. would all of that (plus a couple of other things which are related to a health issue), set you running?
i know there has been talk of people that have had physical things that they thought might have put off potencial dates etc, but i think this is kind of different...
any opinons would be good...
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It would depend how apparent itwas in every day life.
I wouldnt fancy being my partners nursemaid for too long
:yes: I have a friend with mental health who is funny, creative and very intelligent. And sexy. In most cases, I think the mental health issue only makes up a smaller proportion of their whole.
Hope that doesn't sound too bad, i'm trying to be honest but can't think of the right way to phrase it.
i just feel its often another of the litany of things that get in my way of having a healthy relationship with someone.
Depends if I like the person beforehand.
Although otherwise I agree with everyone else, as long as it doesn't completely take over and it's not constantly apparent then I wouldn't see a problem.
I personally find people with mental health issues to be more appealing to me... I guess it's because then i'd feel like I wouldn't be judged and there'd be that added sense of empathy which i'd feel (possibly due to paranoia) wasn't all that sincere with "Normal" people.
No doubt it'd be hard going out with someone just as messed up as me, maybe worse or maybe not as bad as me, but there'd be that mutual understanding. My only fear would be that being with someone just as suicidal and depressed as myself might result in something very, very bad happening. And then I wake up, realise i'm me and that i'm single and have been all of my life and suddenly I realise it'd never happen...
If im nice to her she hates it, if im not she hates it and more than once ive had to physicly stop her hurting herself - with full on mental health disorders like that its almost like there is no 'room' for intimacy.
I have empathy with the problem but i simply would not want to be the one 'responsible' for her because she scares the shit out of me as it is - that said i do everything i can for her to make her life easier, GroupTherapy is working fine though! :yippe:
I've been out with people with far worse mental health than myself, and although it ended up becoming an abusive relationship on his part, it wasn't essentialy that which caused the break up.
its hard to describe it really, because i maybe somewhat biased and want people to see me as someone "normal" and dependable (tbh, even when i'm having a crappy awful days, if someone else is worse off then i'll always do my best to help), and everything else you would want in a partner. I know that the fact i have these fits has put people off in the past, and maybe by that fact alone, they aren't really the people i want to be with...
i don't know...
any advice if there is any to be given?
nail, head.