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ok... so... im not verry good at this and at the moment, am not sure where i should put this.
ive met a girl, its a long distance thing, and we've yet to meet but i do have pretty strong feelings for her... we've met on here, and... we are both selfharmers. we both have/had suicidal intentions and... well...
the thing is, im less active in my selfharm, and its something i feel i need to move away from... the suicidie, is something we are both trying to put off i feel...
thing is i want to support her. i want to be with her, which is verry difficult, being a we've never met, and the distance between us. its only like, 80 miles... im just entering sixthform and shes... well shes got a job. she cant drive far, and i wouldnt want her to drive her, and now im bantering on...
i just want to be able to support her and be there for her, but when she has (what i call spazz attacks when i have them, and i cant realy find a nice way to put it) if i say, negative emotions, i just dont know what im doing. i wouldnt EVER want her to not tell me when shes feeling "bad" i just want to show i care. i just find it difficult.
what can i do?:nervous:
ive met a girl, its a long distance thing, and we've yet to meet but i do have pretty strong feelings for her... we've met on here, and... we are both selfharmers. we both have/had suicidal intentions and... well...
the thing is, im less active in my selfharm, and its something i feel i need to move away from... the suicidie, is something we are both trying to put off i feel...
thing is i want to support her. i want to be with her, which is verry difficult, being a we've never met, and the distance between us. its only like, 80 miles... im just entering sixthform and shes... well shes got a job. she cant drive far, and i wouldnt want her to drive her, and now im bantering on...
i just want to be able to support her and be there for her, but when she has (what i call spazz attacks when i have them, and i cant realy find a nice way to put it) if i say, negative emotions, i just dont know what im doing. i wouldnt EVER want her to not tell me when shes feeling "bad" i just want to show i care. i just find it difficult.
what can i do?:nervous:
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LDR's can be tough and really test relationships but they can work! I know it's easier said, but try to stay positive. If the weekend thing is likely to kick off then she doesn't necessarily have to drive, trains are usually a good form of transport. Although I expect it's easier to drive.
Does she have these 'negative emotions' often? Also is there someone you can confide in other than her? ie, a friend or a family member?
Hope it works out though man! Best of luck!
the um... "negative emotions" are at the moment... regualr for her, but i know exactly what its like... i became hooked on s/h and stuff...
i dunno what you mean by confide in other than her... if you mean do i have other people to talk to, then yes i do, but she isnt so lucky... ive breifly tried to offerer her a person other than me to talk to but... i didnt want to press the subject...
thanks for the reply though...