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Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
Hi All,

Have you seen Hitch, with Will Smith?
I've not seen it but its the concept that i'm interested in.

I've never come across anyone that offers any sort of service, like Will Smith's character in Hitch, that helps a person get a date.



I'm turned 24 in June but have never had a girlfriend. I've been asked out, back in school, but it cudn't/wudn't happen because this is not ideal within our culture.
Now, I've considered having a girlfriend but it never works out. I just don't know what to talk about, or what the opposite sex thinks of me.
I have had friends in the past that give you dating advice but they are really idiotic and 'claim' to have a GF.

I'm born and raised here. Of Pakistani/Indian origin. Gone through alot of different stages and even dropped 15st to 12 st. I don't really know me, i feel like I have no character or one that can be described.

I was thinking, if some can befriend me or a few ppl that are willing to take this challenge - can/will be adventurious/exciting. Somebody to discover me, know who i am, go shopping with and appreciate my taste while we learn from each other. Tell me what you think and what you like and what can improve.


Are you up 4 it?

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Never seen it. But on getting girlfriends in general, just work off the basic principle that the more people you're friends with, the more likely you are to be introduced to a potential girlfriend. So socialise as much as possible with everyone, rather than only being interested in talking to girls you fancy, and then wondering why there's this overbearing pressure to think of something to say. If you meet new people all the time, what to say to new people doesn't become an issue.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    ahahaha that sounds excellent and fun- though possibly painful for you - i would be up for doing it ifffff it was an online thing.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I don't really know me, i feel like I have no character or one that can be described.

    I was thinking, if some can befriend me or a few ppl that are willing to take this challenge - can/will be adventurious/exciting. Somebody to discover me, know who i am, go shopping with and appreciate my taste while we learn from each other. Tell me what you think and what you like and what can improve.

    Hold the phone.....You want us to help improve you, so you can get a gf? :banghead: Fuck that!! Firstly you've got a background, you've got likes/dislikes and you've got dreams and ideas - Build up from them your character. Don't forget your past but your future is in your hands so you decide what happens.

    Make goals for yourself both long term and short. DO NOT worry about birds, they'll come and go, get your life moving once you know what you want and start moving towards getting it you'll end up being a right fanny-magnet.....Beside little pussy may make you feel good for little while but it won't last, so you shoudn't rely on anyone making you happy, I'm afraid that you'll have to find you're own happiness and that's something you have to find within yourself.
    :p
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I'll do it...but i want a fucking high salary! ..and a company porshe.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    So what you're looking for....is a fuck buddy who likes to shop?

    I'm up 4 it.

    :thumb:
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    'I'm with Stupid' makes a good point and is an excellent reply:
    "If you meet new people all the time, what to say to new people doesn't become an issue."
    I got a bad habit of making bad friends. my point is that ... my last friends jumped me and put a knife to my throat. My only decent friend is dead. :banghead:

    Wyetry, how would you pull this off online? :shocking:
    I'll try to keep every1 posted on what happened and how i sc*wed it up - that way i cud get feedback.

    Harmless, it is human nature to desire the opposite sex. I understand what you are saying and i have seen too many people ruin their lives over b*tches (no disrespect intended) but sucessful men also have great women behind 'em. One important thing to me is that she is good hearted, i h8 evil b*tches! i met this girl at the gym and she was so sweet, so nice, so friendly and i was too afraid to ask her out because i didn't want to ruin how nice she'd been to me. :heart:
    As for personal development, i graduated in 2006 then went onto a Masters that i failed when i started a job at a college. Future aspirations - i just want to travel the world. I want a son.
    but, i suppose i got issues? Firsly, i sleep on the floor and have no posters or any real interests. I hate celebrities, they p*ss me off! I'm a very simple guy that lives a simple life. I've got some money, and end up giving/lending it all to my brothers/sister.

    icey, come on! lets be for real. If i had a Porsche, do u think i'd worry about what to say when meeting girls? The car wud do the talking for me! But, mite attract evil ppl!
    :naughty:
    Thanks guys for the replies
    :wave:
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    tehfincheh, i ain't gonna b sc*wing any1.
    in fact, i fast (no food/water at all) and go to the gym to burn energy.
    even go for a jog in the middle of the night. if we weak then u less likely to feel any desire.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    You don't really say where it is you live?

    But basically you need to go out and simply meet people -best things to do are not dating specific but just things you enjoy that involves groups - like go to evening classes and learn a new language - you'll be chatting to people, do a cookery class, join a team sport, etc.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Wyetry, how would you pull this off online? :shocking:

    Well as i said it might be quite painful - I guess you have to understand that you could change how you looked - but that's not really going to change who you are on the inside.

    Getting a girlfriend isn't about what you look like on the outside its about who you are on the inside and how happy with yourself you are, how much confidence you have and weather you have anything interesting to say.

    If you think you have issues you want to change then you need to deal with those first - oh and make some non knife whealding friends!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Wyetry, you're a southerner... you can't be spelling "weather" like that in that context!

    I don't have issues... other people think I have issues.
    I just want someone that can appreciate me for who i am. But, who am i?


    DG, I live in Oldham that is near Manchester. Well, the girl at the gym i met was during a kickboxing class, i'm doing an Arabic class on monday evenings (guys only), i did do cooking but ruined every dish we tried but still protest that i do a mean 'beans on toast!' i use to play footie back in college with mates from college, they were gud guys but don't seem round much.


    Back to the original post, no volunteers? :cool:
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    The chances of finding someone who even lives in the same town as you on this website are pretty slim. I doubt you'll find anyone who will be willing to spend a significant part of their time telling you how to do things. There are people who do it professionally. They're called life coaches, and they charge an absolute fortune, and from what I've seen, mainly talk bollocks and tell you things that are freely available on sites like this.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Go out there and meet people.
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