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The ex factor...
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who here has managed to stay friends with their ex?
to answer my own question...i'm friends with one (apart from he wants more) and semi friends with another but it is very volatile.
has anyone ever managed to achieve a real friendship?
to answer my own question...i'm friends with one (apart from he wants more) and semi friends with another but it is very volatile.
has anyone ever managed to achieve a real friendship?
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The other 2 its civil but i wouldn't say they were friends. I'd still speak to them if i saw them though
2nd - shared about four txts since the day we split up. No bad feeling, we just haven't got anything in common.
3rd - have the occasional "hi, how are you? good ta" kind of chat on MSN but again nothing much in common
4th, longest relationship - we're now very close and chat about everything. Had a horrid break up, then he started talking to me on MSN basically to apologise, admit I was right all along (:D) and then went on to ask me for relationship advice for his next girlfriend! He lives away now but when he's home he usually suggests going out for a drink and I accept occasionally. I don't need his advice on much but he often asks for mine and usually txts me a few nights a week.
It annoys my boyfriend so I don't see the ex at a time when I could be seeing my boyfriend and I don't txt him when we're in the same room and he's happy with that.
In answer to the original question, I don't think we "stayed" friends, more that after we both got over the breakup we developed a new kind of friendship to what we had before. Don't know if this sounds harsh, but I could easily (and would if it was causing mega rows with my boyfriend) end any contact with any of the above, so maybe that says we're not real "friends".. I dunno.
Can't do nothing for me own good me!
2nd yes but i still fancy her and she doesnt really fancy me so not sure thats friends
At crossroads with Ex now so maybe something new will happen..:chin: .. Gotta love life!
other exes I have no idea where they are.
2nd - Still chat on msn, facebook and the phone from time to time.
3rd - Pretty much best friends with, talk every day see each other regularly
4th - Really good friends talk and see each other regularly
5th - Getting back to friendship terms online, but won't really ever see each other as live in completely separate towns
6th - Still friends with, see him round work and is kinda in my social circle.
Doesn't mean that I have harsh feelings or anything like that towards exes. I just feel more content letting the past not dig up old feelings and other things from "days gone by" which makes it easier to make a fresh start. There's a reason for people to have basements, it's where you store memories from the old days so you can go down and look at it every now and then, but it doesn't mean you want the stuff down there to be present in your living room any more.
The rest - no. Most relationships (actually nearly all) have ended on really bad terms one of them in particular hates me which makes things awkward because we still know a lot of the same people, it's been over a year now and he needs to move on.
2. No
3. We still have mutual friends and i see him around - i did also help him a bit with a drug addiction after we had broken up. Is slightly akward as he is now going out with my best boy friends ex girl - they no long speak to each other - so is akward on that front.
4. I have no idea where he is or what he is doing.
5. We have a few mutual friends who i occasionally get updates about his life from - we never speak
6. Still speak a bit
7. Still good friends and talk online and occasionally meet up offline - is more complicated though.
However i am still good friends with loads of boys i had short term flings with and love them to bits in a plutonic kind of a way. I think however life would have been different as most of my relationships were in the days before the internet or even mobile phones so no email, msn, facebook etc - i might still keep in touch with more if communication had been easier me thinks.
The first is a loooong time ago and I just don't have the urge to contact her again.
The second broke my heart and I turned on bitch-mode. We exchanged a few friendly e-mails after that, but never stayed in contact.
The third one doesn't really like me, because I was never in love with her and broke it off after I realized it's not going to work out.
Will be more awkward when I go home though I think..
My longest relationship of two years I am still actually good friends with (and we ended around 8 years ago). She's just moved to London so we'll be hanging out a fair bit. There's no real attraction there any more, but we still get on as if best pals.
To clarify, she has stayed at my place, in my bed, several times over the years and nothing has happened as we're just past that now.