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My man has asked me to move in with him, into his house. Oh my.
That's it.
That's it.
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As silverhalo says, hope it goes well for you
Also I'm very worried about the old milk and cow thing....
I don't think this stops you being a couple. if you weren't at his and he wasn't at yours, then I imagine he'd be playing his xbox and you'd read a magazine at home, so surely it's the same thing just in the same room?
Not sure if I'm missing somthing really obvious, but milk and cow thing?
I thought that too. Figured maybe it was a reference to one of the couple milking it and getting the other to do all the housework etc.
'Why buy the cow when you get the milk for free?' - It's a popular fear that, if a man is getting all the perks of marriage without a lifelong, legally binding commitment, he may take his time before popping the question...or may not ask at all! (courtsey of thesite.org
Man how off was I on that one!
Haha but you're right though, I hadn't thought of that!
I think if you're not careful it can be a general man thing to try and get the woman to do the housework. Well, a stereotypical man thing anyway
Oh dear, it looks like it'll quite easily turn out that way...I already nag him about stuff, like his inability to change the bedsheets, the fact hs idea of making dinner is handing me a kitkat and a pepperami, and the obscene amount of empty Coke Zero cans in his room; and I wouldn't mind that so much but Coke Zero? Ewwww, Cherry Coke pur-lease.
Moving in with a partner can be a really exciting time, but it can raise a lot of issues as well. Good on you for taking the time to think things through before you move in together.
It seems you've already read our 'Move in or move on' article (the one with the 'milk and cow thing'). There's also this light-hearted guide to some of the early issues you might face on iVillage.co.uk. And a slightly more serious one from lawpack.co.uk.
If you haven't already, it might be worth having a heart-to-heart conversation about some of the this things with your man. It might feel like you're putting a downer on things, but in reality, discussing potential problems such as quality couple time or who does the housework in advance, can help bring you closer together.
That said, all the pre-planning in the world, may not be able to prepare you for some of the issues that arise. And it's important to realise that it won't be perfect all the time - you may both need to make compromises as you work out how to live together.
Hope it goes well for you!