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You feel this way to..?
Are you still feeling like this, or are things better...
Much better now but this is called life what i have learned from all this. We should not blame it just face it like an adult.
Face it. I guess so.....
Just be positve and what i know is u will find urself very good after all this experience and will say in ur head this was good to happen with me (only if u find urself out of it early) and it will make u much better person in general (that is how i see myself now).
From personal experience i went out with someone from the age of 15 for 2 years - until a week before my 18th birthday - when i just freaked out and realised that i was far to young to be in a relationship that serious and that i was missing out on lots of things like going out with my friends and to party's and all sorts of other stuff.
you should be out having fun (obv not so much that you compromise your future) and if your not enjoying yourself and having fun together then there isn't much point really is there?
Re the parents - i think that when your a teenager with the massivest will in the world your going to probably annoy your parents and it works the same as well - your parents are probably trying to be cool towards you - paying for things and making sure you get the best in life - being reletavely tollerent of the fact that you spend so much time with your gf - and then it all coming out wrong when they feel like they aren't getting as much of you as they want in return.
So you might want to make a little time for them - suggesting that you all eat a family meal together or gettign a take away one friday or saturday night and just talk to them - not about anythign serious.
Also you shoudl thank them for sending you on the music trip.
First, grass is not always greener, it's easy to get down about things when that's the way they are but equally we would get down about them if they were different too. Sorry, that doesn't make a lot of sense..
Rockstars for example who have all the money and all the friends in the world still get depressed. I think it isn't about finding the right things to make you happy, but making yourself happy with your life and more often than not you'll realise the right things will happen naturally.
This is life though, not everyone makes loads of friends or gets on with everyone or even is liked. Don't ge invited to parties and the like, just have to make the best of what we've got.
I had free time with no 'worries' about exams and that, so just spent my wage on my hobbies, got loads done, got into gardening lol, felt such a sense of achievement.
Came back to uni, remembered that 90% of the time is spent dossing, felt the same sense of apathy as before. But gonna keep on going til I get my degree as it should enable me to get a better career.
LOL a goose just landed in a tree outside me ;p. FYI you are not a pigeon! (I shall post pics
And partying is great fun and you need to do it! Think of the sims, I think that's a good reflection of how to be happy. We have social needs!
But of course you need to balance this with your responsibilities otherwise you will feel like you've achieved nothing...
TBH its all a very long time ago now and i've been out with loads of other people in between - but I guess my main point is that I put it off for a year dithering about weather it was the right thing to do or not and not wanting to hurt him and i guess ultimately worrying about being alone, even though i knew in my heart of hearts that it was a relationship that wasn't really going anywhere.
I had an incredible amount of fun as a teenager and so spending almost 3 years stuck in a relationship which was alright for the first bit probably didn't hurt me so much - but i'm not sure it made it any better other than teaching me a couple of valuable life lessons about how to identify what is a good relationship not just an OK one.
If your not even sure you love her then why are you continuing to stick with her?
This would do my nut. That is no way to run a relationship. If she doesn't trust you, you shouldn't be with her. Simple as.
Also, at 18, you should indeed be enjoying yourself. She sounds a rather dull individual.
When you have been with someone so long and in such an important part of your life it can be difficult to imagine hurting them or being without that person but sometimes it really is for the better.
Good luck.