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Being emotional
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When things go wrong for me or I'm stressed I always get emotional and I really want to toughen up. Has anyone got any tips on how to do this or give me a different way of thinking about things? I wish I was stronger and could communicate how I'm feeling without crying. It's embarrassing in work situations and I feel like it makes me immature. For example, I had £150 taken from my pay packet this month for being off sick (I'm just short of being with the company 6months so don't get SSP) and when I went to speak to my director about it I started crying. I have to go speak to another director in a bit to see if i can get some of it back but I'm worried I'm gona get upset again!
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I feel like a little girl. I fainted at work a couple of weeks ago then couldnt stop crying, very embaressing.
sorry im not very useful though.
Must be a girl thing
I think it is. I even have feel myself getting to the stage where I could cry if I'm asked (told) to do something when I've got a billion things that already need doing.
Used to be like it at school when I got told off haha
Must be annoying.
Like piecesofme said, I just try to take deep breaths, or take a moment to focus on what I'm trying to say.
It's coming out at work quite a bit too, the other week new people joined our team and I had a falling out over nothing with this girl in the team who I love to bits. I went off in a strop and got all emotional, the new people must think I'm a right loser!
Anything especially bothering you justnow? When it comes to a situation wen you feel emotional then take deep breaths and try and tell yourself that it doesn't really matter enough to get yourself upset over.
I don't have any tips I'm afraid.
A trick I've learnt from my Dad is to shift blame, "Do you think I'm being unreasonable for acting this way given x, y and z?" but it's best you don't just come out with just the letters and are able to justify it, because they'll think you're being a blubbering female and somewhat mental. :razz:
But then... you always have been sbeshul.
Im terrible for crying if im embarrassed or especially if i think someone doesnt like me. Cried at work loads of times. Im such a wuss
And i managed to keep it together! Well almost
I make it worse for myself cause I try desperately to hold it in, which just makes my bottom lip shake. I must look like a toddler
I think we should CELEBRATE how emotional we are. Even though I cry I also feel a lot of passion for life and really happy and positive lots of the time. And crying means you care, and it is good to care about life.
I cried in work yesterday coz I didnt feel well - what a loser! Then I cried walking down the road on the phone.
I am just one big wimp!
but it's good to see others are the same!
If I'm on or hungover for some reason that makes me even more emotional. I had to stop myself from fully crying round my mates house on sunday when I found out Portsmouth lost.
I don't think there's anything that can stop it except for thinking of something really funny.
I also cry and stuff on the tv a lot, but silly stuff like when Debra in coal house was crying cos she was proud of her children singing, and at stupid stuff like neighbours haha