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Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
I am john have been in care since 6 my mum went another town then When I was 11 she had me for 2 weeks but she had always done slient treatment and other 2 kids who live with her had always had more attence and she made up things about me I was take by that town social services things have gone worst like there play mind games, stalker, taking advantage of me people come up start fights, She see me when i was 18 she was crying saying i am sorry she drop me again then went things went wrong I was put in this flat neighbours walk in, I what freedom there talk like child, my father i saw when i was 13 when i was in childrens home but he drop me never explain - its feel like i was unwanted child, since live i had all this gangs follow me around and swear and pick fights, I not saying I got angry but there will not leave me alone, The friends I did have where take away or been nasty. I went this club but doing slient treatment seems like you get feel you not whating in this town, neightbours take the mickey I had another neighbours threat. What i mean like i was setup
hamstrung memories of this affair treat cruelly, I seems made powerless. It seems like there hide something from me, I walk away does not work and talking them does not work and stand up does not work. It because my mum is a pyscopath gangs stick up for her. I had one social worker but i think he was somebody else all my friends where take away when i ask them there never explain everything but that look after as foster thorw plants and aways agruements. When i walk past my mum seemtimes she smile When i try talk to her I get lock up for it. How can change this so I can have a life and be leave alone. Sametimes lost it seems bring more idiots try drag me into things i don;'t what to do When i say no there go you be checky like peer presses or try wind you up tell me to do this there get angry with me for saying no. how can this stop?

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I have told the police don;t listen, leave care don;'t listen saying stay in your flat or end up be homeless, Seems like my rights and life has been ruined, Why do there always tell other people your infomation outside like exploter you valuable its brings more trouble to be target, some kids in care have better life some other kids in care have go so much rubbish like leadership for people leave alone. I don;t like drink or drugs but other what do that upto them but why some gangs think you what be like them i screw up my face because god leave me alone.
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    **helen****helen** Deactivated Posts: 9,235 Supreme Poster
    IWC wrote: »
    How can change this so I can have a life and be leave alone.

    Hello John,
    I'm really sorry to read about your situation. It sounds like you've had lots of hardship in your life so far and it's no wonder you want to try and turn things around for the better.

    Although you have told us lots about your situation here, there is also lots you haven't told us and at times the information is confusing - and poses more questions.

    I'll do my best to suggest useful places for you to get support and advice, but I'd also recommend you writing a question to askTheSite, describing your specific circumstances and how you're feeling.

    You don't say how old you are, but if you're 18 years old or younger, you might find the Who Cares Xtra website has some useful information.

    It sounds like the accomodation you are currently in isn't suitable for you.
    Centrepoint is an organisation which aims to help young people like yourself make a better life. It also runs specialist projects for people who have come out of care. There are also likely to be drop-in centres offering advice for young care leavers in your local area.

    You don't mention whether you are currently working, in education, or perhaps you're unsure of your options at the moment. It might be beneficial for you to consider volunteering as a way to learn new skills and meet new people. You may find the Youth Action Network interesting.

    Finally, at times it sounds like you have experienced some really tough reactions from people in your local community which are bound to make you feel upset, it also sounds like you have a stressful, and unpredictable relationship with your mum - TheSite.org is somewhere you can post when you are feeling worried about anything, to get support from others - or even just get things off your chest!

    Take care.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Sorry confuse you, I was meaning more like I was setup by mum and care leaver manger to live in this community like my mum made she love me When I come to this town when i did she drop me that when gangs start follow me around. I ask to leave there saying don't like there what you expert to failed, Like I was used by her everytime i walk past she smike on face. I did join lot of clubs in this area but there been lot of slient treatment for years and other people get more respect. I read thoght my files from social services there where lot of untrue things. I was the person who got tormented then other care leavers like i was there wind up, slient treatment, other young people talk to with respect, When ask why you treat me like this there call the police. Young people in leave care in this area have friends,
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