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Things needed/apreciated after an abortion
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Just for you to be there, not push and don't tell her what to do.
Don't tell her what she should be feeling. Don't tell her how to deal with how she's feeling. Don't tell her anything.
Let her talk, and agree with everything she is saying; there is no right and wrong way and when people start to tell you you are dealing with it in the wrong way it is just shit because you feel shit enough without people telling you you are doing YET another thing wrong.
I would also suggest you suggest she writes a list of the reasons to WHY she has chosen to do what she has. Keep them safe; when she starts regretting it she can read back over them and arealise what she has done is right.
Also, help her reach some kind of closure. A few days / a week after start promting her of how she is going to say goodbye if she feels like she needs to. I know that if I didn't say goodbye how I did I don't think I could have made it to this day feeling how I do without being drowned by the guilt I was feeling. Help her come to some kind of an ending between her and the baby.
Thanks hun *hugs*
if your at the hospital with her - mags, music, TISSUES (soft one not horrible hospital ones).
Then plenty of chocolate after.
Thank you anything else? For when she gets home? Herbal tea?
God I feel so useless
Personally, no nothing else, apart from the obvious pads for the bleeding.
You will feel useless 'cos you are useless! Nothing you can do 'part from be there.
the leaflets i got said something about your five fruit and veg a day can help speed up the healing process, so maybe get some fave fruits in as well as chocolate, soft tissues and giving lots of cuddles.