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How Much Time Should You Spend With Your Partner A Week?
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My partner is going a bit mental at the moment as I havn't been able to see them much because of work commitments. Apparently I have been seeing my friends too much over Christmas etc...The reason I havn't seen them much is partly as we have been arguing a lot lately when we have seen eachother. How much do people rcekon you should spend with your other half a week when you don't have lots of work commitments/family problems/whatever else is going on in your life? 3 days of the week someone suggested to me...
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You just need to find what's right for you & your partner.
Christmas is always stupidly busy, which makes it difficult.
I think to be able to put a figure on it is difficult. I remember when my ex and I a long time ago (we were together about a year and 3 months at this point) used to live in each others pockets and then he decided we should spend more time with other people and went from every day to every now and again in the week to just Saturdays. SO for me it felt like he had lost interest in me and of course after spending so little time together it fizzled out. Maybe you should sit down with your partner and say that you want to spend time with your mates, and they should do the same and then be together when you both want to meet up...does that make sense? So don't all of a sudden start saying "I'll see you Monday, Tuesday and Friday". Also you partner has probably recognised the correlation between your guys arguing and you spending more time with your mates and probably,alike me is seeing it as a sign. You need to sit down and talk about it. The only reason I had issue with it in my relationship was because I didn't have a lot of friends at the time, and so whilst he was out with his, I spent a lot of time alone fearing the worst. Of course that made me feel a bit fragile, less like I wanted to socialise and when we broke up I felt a lot worse (not making that mistake again!) Make sure your partner knows this isn't spelling the end of your relationship.
With my ex we'd see each other 4 or 5 times a week which suited me. The ex before her was pretty much every day, but we could go off and do our own things if we wanted, that suited me too.
I've recently met a girl, and in the 3 weeks i've known her i've seen her twice. It's still very early so i'm happy to continue as she's a really great girl. If things continued though, and we'd see each other once a week then i'd end it, no matter how great she was. Personally I like 3 or 4 times a week on a normal week. Although it's not set in stone, things happen and sometimes you just can't see someone, I wouldn't want a girl to not see me just becuase she'd already seen me x number of timnes that week though.
I guess its down to each individual circumstance between two people. Even if I am near to someone geographically I don't necessarily want to be in their pockets all the time. I don't like to feel that someone has 'taken over my life completely'.
I'm sorry to hear that. Did you talk things through or is there just nothing there anymore?
Like everyone said, it just depends on the relationship. I see my OH about 6 days a week but that suits us and we're happy. If we want to do anything else then that's fine but if not we see each other quite often.
They want it to be spontaneous all the time which I cant manage as I have other commitments! They want me to be there whenever they want but they say they wont for me. We dont talk anymore all we do is argue. I have no more energy left for it. They dont take my views into account. They keep telling me to walk away and its just pushing me away.
Sounds like you have made or are going to make the right decision then. You can do much better than that. Hopefully he will realise what he had and wish he had treated you better. Stay strong, break ups aren't easy
How unromantic of me! but that's it, i guess.