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has anybody ever used one?
my friend suggested i use one because i can't find a right man out there for me!
theres nobody nice at work and you dont really meet nice people in nightclubs and stuff. i pull but they are usually after one thing.
ive never considered using one as ive always thought that they are rather sad and would be so embarassed if anyone i knew found me on there.
for those that have used one, what are they like?
my friend suggested i use one because i can't find a right man out there for me!
theres nobody nice at work and you dont really meet nice people in nightclubs and stuff. i pull but they are usually after one thing.
ive never considered using one as ive always thought that they are rather sad and would be so embarassed if anyone i knew found me on there.
for those that have used one, what are they like?
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I'd say try it out, take it with a pinch of salt and don't expect to find your future love on there. Another forum I scout has a lot of women who date online, and they get very hung up and upset when they see the guy has logged in again looking for new women to meet, or they change their preferences etc. If you're the type that gets very paranoid etc, steer well clear.
It's a shame people have to resort to tacticts like that but it's the reason I don't use such sites anymore.
I think the more general the website the less serious the people are and if it's a totally free website then you also get the people that are just joining cos it's free - I think if people have paid to use a website then they're more likely to be genuine about meeting someone.
Sadly there does seem to be a lot of men on those sites that are only interested in how many pairs of knickers they can get into. Some of them are predatory, some of them are just so socially inept they don't know how to have a proper relationship, but there are an awful lot of utter fruitcakes on the websites.
Even in London, where most people are too busy to date properly, there seems to be a lot of loonies and losers. There are some good people, too, though.
I would suggest going for one where you have to pay a subscription. By the sounds of it, you're looking for a partner. I reckon that, on a website where people actually have to fork out some money, you are going to find fewer people who are only after one thing. Whether that's true or not, I would love to find out.
Then I went on one called loopylove which a friend told me was a laugh. It was ok. You get a bit overwhelmed with the amount of messages you get though. Seriously, if you are a woman, you will get LOADS of messages. I didn't have to message anyone myself.
Then loopylove automatically signed me up to another one, called girlsdateforfree. Such a cheesy name. As it suggests, women don't pay but men do. I whiled away some time on there chatting to a few guys, then one day on a whim, after chatting to one guy, met him for a drink. That was almost a year ago and we're still together.
Dating websites can be annoying but they can be fun. Oh my friend is with a guy she met on OKcupid, she recommends that. I find it quite funny that I met my man on that site, but it's good, as I never would have met him otherwise, and he is great, and lives quite close to me. So I'm all in favour. It's hard to meet people nowadays, especially if you don't want to do the whole bar/club thing.
bet there are a load of fools on there too though-but we meet them all the time anyway
I can understand the negative stigma attached to dating sites, there are unfortunately people out there who lie on their profiles and there is never any guarentee you will meet someone perfect for you. However, just like meeting someone random in a bar, you sometimes just have to take the chance! I feel so lucky I did, I didn't have a problem with meeting men I just became quite shy and wanted to try something different.
Whatever you do, always stay safe. No matter how old you are, where you're meeting...always tell someone where you are going, arrange someone to ring about an hour after you meet so you can let them know you're ok. Or just bring someone along to see you're ok, if the person is genuine they won't mind!
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