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Sexualized behaviour, at aged 10
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Any parent been through this to advise please?
I am more aware that my child is at school, e.t.c showing sexualized behaviour to other children.
This really does concern me, and he has not been exposed to anything, at home. (Always asked frequently):banghead:
He has now been excluded from a new club, he has only been to for a few weeks. His immaturity with other children is not tolerated which is understandable. He denys things with teacher's and play's the victim.
He is even acting sexual towards his own sex.
I am now seeing that his behaviour must be true, as I am told from other trusting adults, that do not know each other.
My Son has a lot of help with learning needs, and will be undergoing tests for A.D.H.D, what they seem to belive he has.
How do I approach this with my child in the correct way?
He does not act in a sexualized way at home, but does act really silly, hardly sits still! Does tell fibs. this is all I witness. I can normally question my son's behaviour direct to him, I feel I need to be more prepared.
I am more aware that my child is at school, e.t.c showing sexualized behaviour to other children.
This really does concern me, and he has not been exposed to anything, at home. (Always asked frequently):banghead:
He has now been excluded from a new club, he has only been to for a few weeks. His immaturity with other children is not tolerated which is understandable. He denys things with teacher's and play's the victim.
He is even acting sexual towards his own sex.
I am now seeing that his behaviour must be true, as I am told from other trusting adults, that do not know each other.
My Son has a lot of help with learning needs, and will be undergoing tests for A.D.H.D, what they seem to belive he has.
How do I approach this with my child in the correct way?
He does not act in a sexualized way at home, but does act really silly, hardly sits still! Does tell fibs. this is all I witness. I can normally question my son's behaviour direct to him, I feel I need to be more prepared.
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rather than have him badged with ADHD (which is an easy get out for some parents these days)< I would sit him down and talk to him. Be upfront and honest in words which he will understand and you may find that his behaviour changes.
If not, I find that a cattle prod often works
Seriously I would also be concerned that the club excludes him rather than helps him (and you)...
Thanks for your comments.
I have decided now to find another club for him to go and and see if anything happens, but continue to explain that he must be on good behaviour, as he may not be able to find anymore clubs for him to go.
His school are keeping him out of the classroom over his behaviour at the moment. His teacher is saying he is more than likely experimenting.
It is just working out the innocence and understanding why.
I am not going to worry too much now, until then I shall just keep getting my son into socialising the best I can.
He is not pleased he can't go to the club, so I hope that he really does realize, he will miss out due to his behaviour.
I am not going to keep him away, and shut in.
Although I agree with everything else you said I just cant agree with the quoted comment above. It very easy to see 'naughty' behaviour and immediately assume someone has ADHD but I've seen first hand how children who really do suffer struggle so badly to concentrate and physically remain still. Sometimes a diagnosis means a child will have access to a learning support assistant who is on hand to repeat instructions and so on.
I realise that ADHD is a bit of a controversial subject but in my opinion it is important to continue the tests. If he has ADHD your son may be entitled to some support in school and its always better to find these things out before entry into the secondary school system. As he is already 10 it is probably better sooner rather than later.
I'm not saying any of the things you talked about in the original post are to do with ADHD though.
I was told my son is complicated as some of his behaviour is purposely done, and other times without thought.
My son has been statemented and will never be able to go to a regular school, due to his poor concept of time and his attention is very low.
He does want my attention way to much, and can act bizarre at times, like he is an animal wanting to be patted! He takes on this role coming up and sniffing like he is an animal. He does this to people he likes.
This immaturity, how can it be measured exactly? other then by behaviour?
TBH I really don't want to get into the ADHD discussion. I will say things which upset people - whether doctors or parents.