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How Do I Stop Relying On Other People So Often?
BillieTheBot
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Ever since a friend of mine (the first person to find out) found out about my self harm, I seem to have relied on him so much to talk to me, so that I don't cut myself. Normally, I tend to ask him to talk to me when I know he won't/can't. (to cut a long story short, we've had some personal problems and he's decided at various time duing the year that he can't deal with the way I'm acting and thinks the answer is not to talk to me; despite not trusting me)
Is there any way I can stop doing this? I think what's made it worse was that, he explained to me that it wasn't possible to talk to me all the time (as he has a wife and a 2 year old son) but if I was really having problems, then he would try to talk to me.
Is there any way I can stop doing this? I think what's made it worse was that, he explained to me that it wasn't possible to talk to me all the time (as he has a wife and a 2 year old son) but if I was really having problems, then he would try to talk to me.
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I know that's all a lot easier said than done, but those are the only real ideas I can think of.
I think I've been in a very similar position to your friend and I found at times the only thing I could do was cut contact, it's not your fault at all but it can be very difficult and disruptive to the rest of your life always being there for someone. Things improved with my friend when she got better generally, and better at using her own coping techniques.
I think this is what my friend found as well - he'd always not talk to me when everything became really complicated and he told me that he couldn't deal with my problems.