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Girls : ever been put of by size? (not penis)
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well like the title says im wondering if this might be my problem with girls, im a nice guy and im quite good looking, however girls never want to be more than friends lol. i love all my female friends and i really enjoy having female friends but at the moment id quite like to take the next step. all my mates tell me im really sweet/cute etc and would be a good catch, however still nothing 
my theory is that girls are intimidated by my size (6'6" and im quite built) and arnt attracted to me at first and by the time theyve realised theres nothing to be scared of they already think of me as a friend:( does this sound like a feasable theory and if so what do i do about it?
my theory is that girls are intimidated by my size (6'6" and im quite built) and arnt attracted to me at first and by the time theyve realised theres nothing to be scared of they already think of me as a friend:( does this sound like a feasable theory and if so what do i do about it? 0
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Like everyone though, people have preferences, i am short and not all men like that but thats thier tough, some do. So where as some might be put off my your height, some won't.
i never normally go up to guys with other girl just incase, unless their obviously single which is often hard to tell
I'll never be put off by a taller height. Shorter, I'd definitely be put off of because I like to feel protected like other folk have said - it's not anything I can explain - just an instinct I have when looking out for someone I fancy.
Fuck this, I'm moving to China. :grump:
Or Japan. :yes: :razz:
well on the on hand thanks for the advice its good to know its not my size thats always worried me:) sadly know it means theres something else im doing wrong lol
p.s. despite having loads of girl mates i dont go out with them i usually go out with the guys so i dont think thats the problem
do you ask them? if you don't then thats what you're doing wrong
I doubt you're doing nowt wrong mate, it's just that you've not met anyone. It's the age old saying - you actively go looking for someone then it won't happen unfortunately! Sod's law and all that jism. :grump:
I suspect the real reason is that you merely haven't found the right woman yet. Lack of confidence is also likely to be holding you back.
Pretty much. I reckon it's easy to look at one factor that you can't change, and blame that for you being unsuccessful with women. Means that you give yourself an excuse not to try, and not to put yourself on the line, which is exactly the sort of attitude that does turn most women off. Look at yourself honestly, and with all other factors equal, do you honestly believe that you'd be more successful if you were a more average size?
"do you honestly believe that you'd be more successful if you were a more average size?"
lol sounds so obvious when you say it like that, i know i probably just havent found the right person yet its just starting to get to me
It's probably something else thats the problem.
I do often find with tall guys though that they're clumsy and seem to slouch around, bending their head over, trying to hide the fact that they are tall. That isn't attractive and shows a lack of self confidence, which also puts me off.
As a growing teenager, my grandma was always telling me to stand up straight and never slouch. "It gives the impression of a confident man, and stops back problems when you're older - just ask your grandfather", she used to say. Looking at the way I stand therefore, you'd be half forgiven for thinking I was an incredibly confident man. How easy it is to fool people.
It sounds to me like maybe you just need a bt of confidence.
Think i'm gonna have to join you there short arse
I have a thing for tall men.
Ditto. Actually it was bad enough my friend (who is about a foot taller than me) trying to hug me one evening.