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So I was speaking to someone the other day, someone who i did feel for, and i knew she did feel the same, but she was with someone at the time so i never did get together with her. We went our separate ways, but still remain in touch. This was a few years ago
Anyway.. back to the point spoke to her for first time in ages (live in different cities now and been extremely busy with work) but anyway, the weird thing is that whenever ive gotten in touch with her, she always saying shes thinking about me, but she was recently telling me how she has a new boyfriend and that she wants to move to another part of the country with him etc, and basically life is all fine and jim dandy. But then she's asking about my love life etc. Told her straight that there's no one in my life at the moment. But the thing is that after speaking to her, i just thought to myself that i dont think anything will happen now, i missed my chance not being upfront before, and it did kind of feel like she was rubbing my nose in it, but all day today at work, just been thinking i may just leave her be for a while, maybe even for good. As i say, when i finsihed speaking to her, i didnt really feel anything after,felt slightly pissed off she rubbed a bit of my nose in it, but those feelings have subsided now.
I think its a shame thinking like this, because she has been a really good friend,but i just dont know if i should just leave her be and just stop speaking to her again. Theres the possibility i may see her in the city where i live, but Im basically stuck on what to do.
Sorry if a long-ish rant, but has anyone else been like this, debating whether or not to just drop someone from their life.
Any suggestions much appreciated
Anyway.. back to the point spoke to her for first time in ages (live in different cities now and been extremely busy with work) but anyway, the weird thing is that whenever ive gotten in touch with her, she always saying shes thinking about me, but she was recently telling me how she has a new boyfriend and that she wants to move to another part of the country with him etc, and basically life is all fine and jim dandy. But then she's asking about my love life etc. Told her straight that there's no one in my life at the moment. But the thing is that after speaking to her, i just thought to myself that i dont think anything will happen now, i missed my chance not being upfront before, and it did kind of feel like she was rubbing my nose in it, but all day today at work, just been thinking i may just leave her be for a while, maybe even for good. As i say, when i finsihed speaking to her, i didnt really feel anything after,felt slightly pissed off she rubbed a bit of my nose in it, but those feelings have subsided now.
I think its a shame thinking like this, because she has been a really good friend,but i just dont know if i should just leave her be and just stop speaking to her again. Theres the possibility i may see her in the city where i live, but Im basically stuck on what to do.
Sorry if a long-ish rant, but has anyone else been like this, debating whether or not to just drop someone from their life.
Any suggestions much appreciated
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Explain to her that you'd appreciate if in future she didn't rub your nose in. (I had to do this and it never worked...)
What i mean is that i just feel now that i dont "know" her anymore like i used to, and now that I hardly see her these days, i may just call it quits and see what life brings.
Don't feel you have to cut her out of your life if things aren't going the way you want them to with her, friendship is a wonderful thing.