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ok, so, i've been into bdsm for as long as i can remember, however i have noticed that i seem to be getting deeper and deeper into it. now i haven't actually been to any fetish clubs, it's really just porn that i watch, however, comparing the porn that i would have watched 3~4 years ago with the stuff that i watch now, i would have been disgusted at myself... nothing illegal - mind you, but it could be considered pretty disturbing.
it seems that at times i seriously consider making my fantasy a reality by visiting a dominatrix / fetish club. i don't want this to become some anti-social endeavour of mine; i enjoy porn a lot and especially bdsm stuff, i don't care if anyone considers it sexual misconduct or immoral or whatever, i personally don't think it is.. however it's getting unhealthy and much like a drug - i'm wanting harder and harder stuff and wanting to move onto "the real thing".
should i just give it up altogether? go cold turkey? i'm able to go without it for months, but whenever i'm unable to fight the urge, i end up watching some pretty fucked up shit :P
suggestions will be appreciated.
cheers.
[and yes, i know i sound like a proper weirdo right now lol
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it seems that at times i seriously consider making my fantasy a reality by visiting a dominatrix / fetish club. i don't want this to become some anti-social endeavour of mine; i enjoy porn a lot and especially bdsm stuff, i don't care if anyone considers it sexual misconduct or immoral or whatever, i personally don't think it is.. however it's getting unhealthy and much like a drug - i'm wanting harder and harder stuff and wanting to move onto "the real thing".
should i just give it up altogether? go cold turkey? i'm able to go without it for months, but whenever i'm unable to fight the urge, i end up watching some pretty fucked up shit :P
suggestions will be appreciated.
cheers.
[and yes, i know i sound like a proper weirdo right now lol
] 0
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If you want to get spanked by a dom wearing a crotchless pvc suit, go right ahead. Who the fuck cares what other's think? Different strokes/different folks.
I would suggest weaning off the porn for a bit, and maybe visiting a fetish club or something (if you're old enough
If you decide to go, (and I know I'm stating the obvious) but do be aware that the realm of BDSM in RL is different to the net i.e. there are strict rules to adhere to, I doubt you'd hear safety words etc, on the net. There's also the issue that most places wouldn't allow sex on liscenced premises, so that would rule out sex and masturbation.
Don't give it up altogether as you'll only need something naughty to fill the void it's left. Do you have a bird/fuck buddy you can see, to sort of take the edge off wanking so much?
If you've got a bird/fuck buddy ask her to go to one of them clubs as mentioned by go_away. Or go alone and see what happens....maybe the rl thing will put you off and enable you to move on!
Maybe try a fetish club to see how you feel about it in real life.
Basically, being restrained/restraining, punished/punishing and being sexually aroused by giving/receiving pain.
aah, thanks
Not my kinda cup of tea like but each to their own huh