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On the rocks again
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I dont know if you can rember a thread i posted about a month or so ago about me and my boyfriend going through a rough time and he didnt knw whether he could trust me and not knowing whether he wanted to be with me anymore. Well hes now started sayin that he doesnt think hes happy anymore and that he feels trapped when im around :S i cant understand this as ive never once stopped him from going out when ever he asks if im ok with him goin out i always say yes so i cant understand whats up.
Then he said that he thinks we spend too much time together hes said this before and ive tried not to go round so much but then hes always asking me whether im going round or not it does my head in.
This all started yesterday when he emailed me asking whether i was missing him because im working away for the week and i said yeah and then he said that he isnt missing me and that he doesnt want to see me when i go home for this next week
But then he went and said he doesnt know whats up with him because the thought of losing me is killing him :S so if he feels like that whys he putting me through it again?
Grrr men they do my head in
Then he said that he thinks we spend too much time together hes said this before and ive tried not to go round so much but then hes always asking me whether im going round or not it does my head in.
This all started yesterday when he emailed me asking whether i was missing him because im working away for the week and i said yeah and then he said that he isnt missing me and that he doesnt want to see me when i go home for this next week
But then he went and said he doesnt know whats up with him because the thought of losing me is killing him :S so if he feels like that whys he putting me through it again?
Grrr men they do my head in
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I agree, I think you need to sit down and have a proper talk about things. Although he'll probably say that that in itself is claustrophobic, it needs to be done.
He shouldn't be able to just take you and leave you when he wants, and saying he doesn't want to see you when you've been away is horrible! He either wants you all the time, and that includes meeting your needs, or he doesn't.
Either way, I really hope things work out for you
Do you mind me asking how old you are and how long you have been with your boyfriend??? xx
I dont know what to do i want to give him time yet i dont want to be hanging on forever. I dont want to loose him yet i dont want to be treated like this forever
im nearly 18 and we've been together 8 months
I hope you work it out xxx
Definitely. By giving him time it just allows him to mess around a bit more if you look at it a bit cynically like me
I think the only thing i can really do is give him some time and then see if he wants to see me
Good luck and sorry if i have been harsh i just hate to hear people being messed about.
xxx
So he wants to know that you're missing him, but then replies saying something hurtful like that?
If he's not happy and "feels trapped", he should do the decent thing and finish with you. Or better, you should. Unless you want to put up with someone who is so rude.
Sorry to be harsh...but I think you deserve someone who wants to see you. I've been with guys who just can't be bothered and it's just damaging to your ego.
Why do a lot of guys seem to think all women have a secret agenda to trap them and stop them having fun?
I dont know how i make him feel like this though ive NEVER stopped him from doing anything he always goes out with his mates when he wants to whether its up town at night or anywhere else
I think that he wants the best of both worlds; to be single and have fun, but also to have someone to go back to at the end of the day.