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so basically the problem is this -
Im good friends with 3 lads (lets call them A, B and C)
Now these guys are all students like me and all live together as flatmates in a student house.
The thing is - i know for a fact that all 3 of them fancy me. (ive been told numerous times from different sources - as well as being told by them on seperate occasions - WHY they like me?!! god knows)
BUT i dont fancy any of them back!! Now, ive TOLD them this several times that i really like them as friends, but i dont think it would work out if we were a couple.
the bad thing is though, that none of them seem to take any notice!! i dont know whether its because im a softie and havent told them firmly enough, OR if im giving them the wrong signals despite telling them that.. (which as far as im aware i havent!! Theres rarelyy been a time when ive been properlly alone with one of them at a time. we're always in a group)
the other problem is that all 3 of them know about the each of them liking me. which finally resulted in a bit of a fight last week which resulted in a bloody nose, 1 broken finger and me crying hysterically whilst trying to sort things out. (dont think i really did!)
Basically what im asking, is what exactly should i do?!! I know it really does come down to them sorting things out between themselves, but what can I do?
should i just leave them to things for a while and stay clear for a couple of weeks or what?! i dont want to make things even worse than they already are!
Im good friends with 3 lads (lets call them A, B and C)
Now these guys are all students like me and all live together as flatmates in a student house.
The thing is - i know for a fact that all 3 of them fancy me. (ive been told numerous times from different sources - as well as being told by them on seperate occasions - WHY they like me?!! god knows)
BUT i dont fancy any of them back!! Now, ive TOLD them this several times that i really like them as friends, but i dont think it would work out if we were a couple.
the bad thing is though, that none of them seem to take any notice!! i dont know whether its because im a softie and havent told them firmly enough, OR if im giving them the wrong signals despite telling them that.. (which as far as im aware i havent!! Theres rarelyy been a time when ive been properlly alone with one of them at a time. we're always in a group)
the other problem is that all 3 of them know about the each of them liking me. which finally resulted in a bit of a fight last week which resulted in a bloody nose, 1 broken finger and me crying hysterically whilst trying to sort things out. (dont think i really did!)
Basically what im asking, is what exactly should i do?!! I know it really does come down to them sorting things out between themselves, but what can I do?
should i just leave them to things for a while and stay clear for a couple of weeks or what?! i dont want to make things even worse than they already are!
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Once they understand neither of them will be getting off with you, then they will learn to chill as they don't have to worry about saving face in front of the others. (Guys hate loosing out to eachother)
:thumb:
or you could do the talking thing, that might be better.
be blunt and maybe a little of with them for a while until they get the message
and if you're really not feeling any of them dont flirt with any of them cuddle and shit cos they will take it the wrong way